Nutrition

Dear Restrictive Diets

Dear restrictive diets,

It’s not me, it’s you. You’re controlling, demanding, and require too much of my attention.

I did my absolute best to show up and listen to your requirements, but it was never good enough. If I wasn’t perfect, I needed to do better. You failed to acknowledge the improvements I did make, and only focused on what I did wrong.

I’m tired of feeling anxious about constantly trying to be punctilious with your rules and the guilt that comes with it when I’m not.

I’m sick of hearing I’d look better if I lost weight.

I’m done listening to you when it comes to what I can and can’t do. I have a life to live and you can’t be holding me back from experiencing it.

I’m going to listen to my intuition instead of your arbitrary rules. I’m going to live my life in accordance to what empowers me, my body, and my life.

It’s over.
Devi

Whose with me? Show of hands if you’re breaking up with restrictive diets too 🙋‍♀️

If you want to learn a better approach, join my free course: Master Your Mindset for Ultimate Fat Loss. I’ll teach you how to lose body fat without following restrictive protocols AND teach you how to accept your body before you lose a single pound 🖤😘

Five Smart & Healthy Habits to Practice Whenever You go Out for Drinks

Five smart habits to practice whenever you go out for drinks (↓):

>> Before ordering another round, ask yourself: would drinking another glass really enhance the experience or would one more just be superfluous?

>> Hydrate. Drink some water between drinks, and chug a glass (or two) before bed. It’ll help prevent those insufferable hangovers 🤪.

>> Before giving that impulsive “yes” when someone says, “let’s take shots!” ask yourself if YOU actually want a shot.

You’re under no obligation to say yes, even when someone offers...even when all your friends are taking shots. You don’t have to conform or give into social pressure.

This is a perfect opportunity for you to practice declaring healthy boundaries.

>> Pace yourself. Drink 𝘴𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳.

>> If you want to go out to socialize—without drinking—give yourself permission to do so. You don’t need to drink a single drop to go out. I do it all the time and still have just as much fun.

The overarching theme: be mindful and intentional about your choices, boo. You body and your wallet will thank you.

Cheers to that.

Love your favorite oenophile,

Devi

The Real Cause for Emotional Eating

Emotional eating has less to do with control, and has more to do with learning to process emotions.

For many, it’s the inability to allow ourselves to feel difficult emotions.

We’ve been conditioned to avoid pain. That if you’re experiencing some sort of disharmony—you need to ignore it, suppress it, and cover it up.

And so we adapt maladaptive coping mechanisms—food, drugs, alcohol, sex—anything that will numb what’s going on inside of us.

But these coping mechanisms don’t solve anything; they only distract us momentarily and temporarily, and then usually exacerbate everything and manifest into something bigger later on.

For example: in the case of emotional eating, you use food to numb, but after eating your feelings, your problem still exists, as do your emotions. And now, on top of that, you feel guilty and uncomfortable from eating too much.

Relate?

Part of disrupting this pattern and breaking up with this behavior is allowing yourself to lean into your emotions. To process them. To understand them. To feel them.

And sometimes feeling is uncomfortable.

AND THAT’S OKAY.

You’re allowed to feel hurt, insecure, sad, lonely, heartbroken, depressed, anxious, afraid, helpless, overwhelmed, nervous, jealous.

Bring awareness to what you’re feeling, without judgement attached.

Whatever’s coming up for you is valid, allowed to be seen, and just wants to be heard because it has something to tell you.

Your emotions are your friends. Even, when it hurts. They want to protect you. And the more you suppress them, the more they persist, because you’re ignoring what it desperately what’s you to know.

So, identify what the emotion is telling you and what the need is: comfort, security, love, connection, care, support, just space to breathe. And then address how you can fill those needs.

When you acknowledge what’s below the surface and allow it to move through, the discomfort eventually dissipates. Feel your feelings, boo—only then will you experience true liberation from it.

I’ll share more on this topic in a future post 🖤

Overcoming an Eating Disorder & Body Dysmorphia

It’s been a little over two years since I severely suffered from an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. And fuck. That struggle was life shattering in all the ways something can be, because it affected so many areas of my life.

Hating my body started in my earliest days, too. And the more and more I became aware of my body, the more and more that feeling intensified.

There were so many factors that lead into this. To start, I watched other women in my life obsess over their bodies and listened to them shame themselves for not being small enough.

That had it’s own effect and in a way programmed me to believe that was normal behavior.

Mixed with that, there was (still is) social pressure to look a certain way; constantly inundated with images and messages on how you should look. You’re spoon fed the idea that if you want to be loved, popular, successful, celebrated, happy...you MUST live up to these flawless expectations.

And I tried and I never achieved it, because it’s impossible. Because perfection doesn’t exist. Because what you see is distorted and photoshopped.

But, at the time, I didn’t have that awareness, so I grew to hate my body even more. And that hate and obsession is what catalyzed my eating disorder.

This a huge epidemic so many face, and it’s no surprise as to why. We’re taught how to hate ourselves. To berate ourselves, judge ourselves, be hard on ourselves, and constantly change ourselves.

Instead of being taught to accept, while striving to be the best version of ourselves—in a compassionate and loving way.

Once I realized that for myself, I had to spend time digging, unpacking, and relearning years of conditioning. And anyone who says that process is easy, they’re lying to you. It’s not. Loving yourself is hard because you’re told day in and day out not to.

I want to remind you not to hate yourself FOR hating yourself, because it isn’t your fault. To practice being gentler with yourself a little more everyday. To practice replacing hate with something neutral, as opposed to jumping right into something positive. To practice, even when resistance comes in. To practice, because you deserve it. Because you’re worth it.

xx

Devi

Master Your Mindset for Ultimate Fat Loss

You so desperately want to lose body fat and gain control of your habits, but you’re struggling. You’ve tried everything and wind up with the same outcome each time: back at square one, because you fell off...again.

At this point changing your body feels impossible. It seems like no matter what you do, you’re constantly stuck in that fucking awful ‘end-and-attempt’ cycle.

You’re fucking vexed (😣) and probably thinking to yourself, “𝚆𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚏𝚞𝚌𝚔 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚖𝚎?! 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝙸 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜? 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝙸 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚖𝚢 𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚝 𝚝𝚘𝚐𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛?

Here’s the thing, boo. Most fat loss programs are doing you a huge disservice. While they give you the principals to lose body fat, they leave out the *most* important component for long term success: the mental work.

You can’t have a sustainable physical transformation, 𝘶𝘯𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 you have a mental one too.

And that’s exactly what I’m going to teach you inside my FREE course: Master Your Mindset for Ultimate Fat Loss.

In this course, I’m going to show you what’s holding you back, exactly how to fix it, and help you completely transform your mindset. If you’re ready to finally gain control and achieve the results you’ve been longing for—head to the link HERE to join the course for free 😘 see ya inside!

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Being Judged for Eating Healthy

Oooh, I’m sorry. Did eating this, offend you?

Show of hands if you’ve ever received criticism from friends or family for eating healthier? 🙋‍♀️

“𝙾𝚑, 𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚔 𝚊𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚝𝚑𝚢.”
“𝙲𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚘𝚗. 𝙹𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚎.”
“𝙴𝚊𝚝 𝚊 𝚋𝚞𝚛𝚐𝚎𝚛.”
“𝙸 𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚐𝚘𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚗 𝚊 𝚍𝚒𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝚎𝚊𝚝.”

They single you out and judge you because you’re choosing to make empowered choices for your body. 𝐋𝐎𝐋. Like, 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 take care of yourself. That’s sooooooo weird.

How fucked. Am I right?

I totally get how uncomfortable this feels, especially if you’re in the very beginning stages of making mindful choices. The constant nit-picking creates pressure making you second guess and can leave you feeling embarrassed.

Don’t let it, boo. You’re taking care of yourself and you should never feel guilty or ashamed for doing so.

Their judgements and criticism is about them, not about you. You’re a mirror reflecting something back to them that they don’t want to face. It’s showing them an insecurity and bringing up their own stuff about self-care. Deep down, they’re upset with themselves for failing to take responsibility of their own health.

But instead of making changes—like you are—they try to drag you down with them, so they project on you.

Nonetheless, even with that awareness, it’s annoying and frustrating. So, here are some responses to help navigate the situation with more ease:

>> “I’m not hungry, but thank you for offering.”
>> “This way of eating really works for me and I feel great, so I’m gunna keep doing it.“
>> “I don’t judge you for what you put in your body, so why do you feel the need to judge me?”
>> “Yeah...you’re right. How dare I take care of my body, that’s sooooo weird.”
>> “The food I put in my body doesn’t effect you, so I’m not really sure why you care? You should probably unpack whatever it is that’s coming up for you and figure out why my dietary choices upset you so much.

^^ (The last part is optional, but I like to be a passive aggressive bitch sometimes 🤷‍♀️).

Cheers to taking care of yourself and forgetting about what others have to say about it.

XX

Devi

Overcoming an Eating Disorder

Food controlled about five years of my life. For those who don’t know, I suffered from a life-shattering eating disorder.

It all started in high school. I wanted to change my body to fit society’s fucked up standards of beauty. So, I started dieting. Obsessively. I was constantly following something and I tried just about everything. Juice cleanses. Low carb. Low fat. Paleo. Vegan. The military diet. Weight Watchers. Keto. Calorie restricting. There was even a week when I only ate baby food (😣).

I’d follow these diets for a week or two at a time, and when I “messed up” or deprivation sank in—I ate anything I could get my hands on. If there wasn’t enough food at home, I’d go to the grocery store to buy more.

Let me clarify: Binging is NOT Thanksgiving. It is NOT overeating. It’s eating a meal, and then scavenging through your cabinets to see what else you can eat; cookies, ice cream, bread, peanut butter, rice cakes—all in one sitting. You might start munching on food you don’t like. And after an episode of binging, you can’t move. You’ve stuffed yourself to the point of overwhelming discomfort.

For the longest time, I didn’t even realize it was an eating disorder. I assumed I couldn’t “get my shit together.” That I just needed to learn to control myself. But that wasn’t actually the case.

You see, an eating disorder is much deeper than having willpower around food. It’s a mask that disguises your insecurities, your pain, and your suffering. For some, it’s a coping mechanism to numb. For others, like myself, it‘s caused by body dysmorphia.

An eating disorder is not fixed by “fixing” your body or following a diet you can finally adhere to.

Recovery involves the unpacking of why and how it developed. It’s addressing the underlying issue and dismantling through all the narratives that are robbing you from feeling normal around food and in your body.

Healing isn’t linear, either. This journey is full of disarray; ups and downs. But healing is possible. I’m walking example and if you’re struggling, you will be one day, too. I believe in you. There is freedom. I promise.

Keep going. Keep trying. Keep believing.

Devi

What The F is Bacterial Vaginosis?

Your vagina is high maintenance. She craves your attention and has very delicate needs. The minute you don’t treat her the way she wants to be treated, she retaliates...

“𝙼𝚖𝚖𝚔𝚊𝚢, 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚌𝚑. 𝙸’𝚖 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚕 𝚞𝚗𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚊𝚋𝚕𝚎.”

𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎,
𝚈𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚟𝚊𝚐𝚒𝚗𝚊
🖤☠️

And in some cases, you wind up with BV.

What the fuck is BV!? 🤷‍♀️

BV stands for bacterial vaginosis. It is not an STD. It develops when when there’s a disruption to the normal vaginal flora. In other words, there’s a change to the PH of your vagina. In order to maintain a solid PH balance, the good bacteria and bad bacteria need to be in healthy harmony. This can be difficult to do considering all the things that go in your vagina and around your vulva.

BV can be caused by a myriad of things, including:
>> harsh chemicals and fragrances
>> not changing your tampons regularly
>> frequent sex partners
>> clothing
>> poor diet

The main characteristic of BV is the odor. Typically, you’ll notice your vagina smells different or perhaps the smell is heightened.

If you have it, don’t be alarmed—it’s treatable, it’s common, and you’re not alone. About two out of five women have BV, but 84% of women don’t even realize they do; most women don’t even know what it is. Depending on how bad the imbalance is, it can dissipate on its own in a few days. But if not, see your gynecologist so you can treat it with antibiotics.

BV is known to be a reoccurring infection, so it’s not unlikely you’ll get it again.

Some things to consider to help prevent BV:

> Apple Cider Vinegar 🤪
> Let that bitch air out
> Don’t sit in sweaty gym clothes
> Buy cotton underwear
> Avoid the harsh chemicals and fragrances found in many soaps, lubricants, condoms, tampons, and pads.
> Thoroughly clean her with water, daily.
> If you prefer to use soap to wash her (it’s not necessary), use unscented soap. I like Dr. Bronner’s. And if you do use soap, stick to the SAME soap. Changing it up can throw off the PH. She doesn’t like being introduced to new things. She prefers familiarity.

So there you have it.

Lessons on your vagina from your favorite slut 💋

Devi

Benefits of Apple Cider Vinegar

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Drinking my daily ACV shot, per usual. All the dirty details on why and how and when is below:

𝐁𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐅𝐈𝐓𝐒:
•promotes healthy blood sugar levels
•aids in digestion
•regulates ph
•great for your vaginal health — yay! (if you struggle with BV or yeast infections, ACV is your best friend).

𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎:

Take a tablespoon or two of ACV (preferably one that is raw, organic, unfiltered, & unpasteurized), dilute it in water, add lemon or lime — drink up!

𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐍 𝐓𝐎:
I personally take it 2-3x a day right before meals

P.S. I’m thoroughly enjoying the daily IG stories of you all drinking an ACV shot — keep it up, magical humans! I’m happy you’re all on board and taking daily action steps for your health 🖤 #proudofyouuu #acvshots

Do You Feel Pressured to Always Drink When You're Out?

In the past, when I went out drinking, I felt compelled to have a drink in my hand at all times. The minute I finished a drink, I’d order another one. Always. Without fail. Irrespective of if I actually wanted another drink or not.

And when asked the inevitable questions...

𝙲𝚊𝚗 𝙸 𝚋𝚞𝚢 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚔? 𝚂𝚞𝚛𝚎.
𝚂𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚜? 𝙳𝚞𝚑.
𝙼𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚜? 𝚈𝚎𝚊𝚑!? 🤷‍♀

I’d wake up the next day with an insufferable hangover (☠️), repeating the same conversation I had with myself the week before:

“𝙵𝚞𝚌𝚔. 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚍𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏, 𝙳𝚎𝚟𝚒? 𝙽𝚘 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚢𝚘𝚞.”

As much I do love drinking wine and tequila, I don’t particularly enjoy getting fucked up on the reg. I do, however, enjoy going out and being a social butterfly on the reg. But, I was in a predicament, because when I went out I felt obligated to continuously drink throughout the night.

I know you know this and I know I knew this, but you can go out WITHOUT drinking.

I get why this is hard to do because there is that social pressure put on you to drink, especially when you’re in a bar.

When you tell people you’re not drinking, they get all up in your space and chastise your right to say no. They question you. Judge you. And encourage you to, “𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎” even though you already said no.

Listen.

When someone berates you for saying no, it has nothing to do with you and has absolutely everything to do with them. It’s stirring something up for them. It’s triggering them in some way, bringing up an insecurity, and challenging their beliefs. As a result, they project on you.

^^ that’s not your problem. It’s not your work. 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠.

The next time you’re out, before giving that impulsive “yes,” ask yourself if YOU actually want another drink.

You’re under no obligation to have another drink, even when someone offers...even when all your friends are taking another round of shots. You don’t have to conform.

Cheers to that,

Devi