F*ck Your Positivity

How many times have you heard the following when you were in the midsts of undesirable situation or an uncomfortable feeling?
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𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 π’„π’‰π’‚π’π’ˆπ’† π’šπ’π’–π’“ π’Žπ’Šπ’π’…π’”π’†π’•.
𝑱𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 π’šπ’π’–π’“π’”π’†π’π’‡.
𝑩𝒆 π’‘π’π’”π’Šπ’•π’Šπ’—π’†.
𝑩𝒆 π’ˆπ’“π’‚π’•π’†π’‡π’–π’.
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Don’t get me wrong, these things 𝘀𝘒𝘯 help.
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But, it’s usually not the first solution, especially when you’re so far in it. All these overly optimistic statements are frustrating because it invalidates your pain and someone just slathered simplicity on a complex problem.
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And you want nothing more than to tell them and their optimism to fuck all the way offβ€”rightfully so.
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You don’t always have to view the world with your rose-colored glasses. You can see things for what they are and accept the fact that the circumstance is undesirable.
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There doesn’t have to be a bright side or a positive in everything. It can simply just suck. You can say, β€œπ–¨ 𝗁𝖺𝗍𝖾 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘡𝘩π˜ͺ𝘯𝘨 π–Ίπ–»π—ˆπ—Žπ— π—π—π—‚π—Œ.”
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You can complain.
You can cry.
You can panic.
You can scream and stomp your feet and have an outburst of resentment.
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You’re feeling your feelings and vocalizing what’s real for youβ€”that’s the healthy thing to do; even when those feelings are full of pain, negativity, and arouse indignation.
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Sometimes the answer is to live in the suckage for a day or two and honor it and everything that comes with it.
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And only then, when you’ve expressed and released your frustrationβ€”it’ll be easier to make that mental shift, or to at least have clarity on what the next solution is to the problem.