dealing with insecurities

Your Insecurities are Haunting You

Your insecurities will continue to lurk in the corner and perpetually paralyze you, until you muster up the courage to face them. And trust me, I get how the very act of doing so is petrifying considering you’ve been told to hide them and run away from them.

You’ve been raised and socialized to feel insecure about your insecurities. ⠀

“𝙳𝚘𝚗’𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚕𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚢𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚖 𝚘𝚛 𝚎𝚕𝚜𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚍𝚎𝚎𝚙𝚎𝚜𝚝, 𝚍𝚊𝚛𝚔𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝚜𝚎𝚌𝚛𝚎𝚝 𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝚋𝚎 𝚛𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚎𝚍: 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚢𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚞𝚗𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚑𝚢 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚛𝚎.”

It’s no wonder you try to conceal them and avoid them—you’re embarrassed to even have them.

But, baby girl, we’ve all got insecurities. To feel insecure is a normal part of the human experience. It’s not something to suppress, ignore, or feel ashamed about. It’s something you should take time to understand and unpack.

And I promise, as scary as they seem, their presence exists to serve you, not to terrorize you. They’re your compass to guide you; they’ll take you down a path to a deeper understanding of yourself. It’ll show you the things you need to work on or work through.

Confront them. Make sense of them. Dismantle them. Allow them to heighten your confidence—not stomp on it. Got it, love? Use the Lumos spell to light up the dark and face the very thing that’s been haunting you.

This Mindset Shift Will Dramatically Improve Your Life

I used to avoid things I sucked at. Writing? Forget about it. Public speaking? Oh hell no. Dancing? Lol.

I had a fixed mindset. In other words, I believed the fallacy that weaknesses couldn’t be modified, altered, or polished. In my mind, it was: these are the things I suck at and these are the things I’m good at and that’s the way it is. I just had to accept it and stick to my strengths and dodge all my weaknesses whenever they were presented.

This mindset kept me stagnant and stifled my growth. It limited me. I avoided challenges and stopped pursuing certain aspirations. It wasn’t serving me or my life by any means. Eventually, I decided to shift my way of thinking and adapt the growth mindset.

I went from “𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒅𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈” 𝒕𝒐 “𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈.”

This is a powerful place to operate from and will dramatically transform your life, because...

>> You embrace challenges
>> You’re open to feedback and see criticism as a tool to improve
>> You heighten your confidence
>> You see failure as an opportunity to expand
>> You become multitalented and well-rounded (in my opinion, two very attractive traits 🤤).

As Neil Strauss says, “𝑰 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒇𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒂 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒇𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒐𝒓.” Growth has become a core value of mine, and I’m constantly on the prowl to find and master new skills.

So here’s what I want you to do: think about something you suck at, but wouldn’t mind being good at. Learn it. Study it. And master it.

Be a student of life ⚡️

Podcast Interview: Creating A Healthy Lifestyle + Healing Body Image

In this podcast interview with Amir Lamdan, I discuss the tools I've implemented into my life that helped me establish a healthy lifestyle and relationship with my body.

Topics Discussed In This Episode:

1:28 - What advice would you give someone who is just starting their journey?

3:30 - How did you create this mindset shift with fitness and your body?

6:50 - Finding YOUR happy (being lean does not equate to happiness)

8:46 - Self love and self acceptance does not mean you can't change your body

11:05 - Being independent of external validation

13:05 - Dealing with insecurities

15:40 - Stepping away from numbers and the scale

17:00 - Changing the way you speak to yourself and your body

18:37 - Who helped to inspire me to get to where I am today

21:55 - What my coaching program is about