growth mindset

This Mindset Shift Will Dramatically Improve Your Life

I used to avoid things I sucked at. Writing? Forget about it. Public speaking? Oh hell no. Dancing? Lol.

I had a fixed mindset. In other words, I believed the fallacy that weaknesses couldn’t be modified, altered, or polished. In my mind, it was: these are the things I suck at and these are the things I’m good at and that’s the way it is. I just had to accept it and stick to my strengths and dodge all my weaknesses whenever they were presented.

This mindset kept me stagnant and stifled my growth. It limited me. I avoided challenges and stopped pursuing certain aspirations. It wasn’t serving me or my life by any means. Eventually, I decided to shift my way of thinking and adapt the growth mindset.

I went from “𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒅𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈” 𝒕𝒐 “𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈.”

This is a powerful place to operate from and will dramatically transform your life, because...

>> You embrace challenges
>> You’re open to feedback and see criticism as a tool to improve
>> You heighten your confidence
>> You see failure as an opportunity to expand
>> You become multitalented and well-rounded (in my opinion, two very attractive traits 🤤).

As Neil Strauss says, “𝑰 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒇𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒂 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒇𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒐𝒓.” Growth has become a core value of mine, and I’m constantly on the prowl to find and master new skills.

So here’s what I want you to do: think about something you suck at, but wouldn’t mind being good at. Learn it. Study it. And master it.

Be a student of life ⚡️

4 life changing lessons I learned in 2017

This past year has been full of opportunity and growth—with my business, with my relationships, and with myself. 

As this year comes to an end, I wanted to share 4 life changing lessons I learned in hopes that they can be life changing for you as well.

CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM IS A FRIEND

I used to get extremely defensive when I received criticism. I don’t like to be wrong (who does?), I felt like the person was belittling me, and it made me feel inadequate. 

But here is the thing, constructive criticism is a wonderful growth tool. Instead of taking advice as negative feedback, rather use it as a way improve.

For example: A friend recently pointed out to me that I use the word “so” way too frequently, especially on my Instagram stories. He suggested that I decreased the usage of the word, and varied my vocabulary.

He noted an observation and confronted me to help me—not to make me feel less. Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to confront you in a polite manner, as he did—some people don’t know how to communicate without being blunt, rude, or aggressive. But, we can still perceive it as a way to better ourselves, instead of getting upset about it. 

Let criticism be your friend, not your enemy. 

I know there might be instances in which you receive criticism that isn’t useful—because well, some people are just assholes. Don't take it personally—it has everything to do with them and absolutely nothing to do with you. 

BE VULNERABLE 

Being vulnerable is scary, but can be an asset to your life in so many ways. 

Vulnerability has allowed me to show up authentically because it encourages me to live my truth. It has opened up more doors for opportunity because I put myself out there. It has improved my connection with people on a deeper level because I talk about uncomfortable topics. It has helped me accept uncertainty because I can go into situations without knowing the outcome. All of which has been imperative to my growth. 

It’s a scary thing, that it is. But it’s a necessary thing. 

SOME PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE TO TEACH YOU SOMETHING, BUT NOT TO STAY FOREVER

One of the hardest things I had to come into acceptance with this year was realizing that not everyone is meant to stay in my life forever. Sometimes a person is meant to come into my life to teach me a lesson, and that is all. 

There is no denying that this is an agonizing thing to go through. It inflicts pain, heartache, and if you’re anything like me, a lot of tears. But you see, even though it is a loss, it is also a gain. I either learned something from them or I made room for another friend. This doesn’t make it hurt any less, but I did grow stronger because of it, and for that I am grateful. 

HAVE A GROWTH MINDSET, NOT A FIXED MINDSET

I used to have what is referred to as a fixed mindset. In other words, if I sucked at something, I didn’t think it could be modified. This is what can cause people to stay stagnant. 

One of the many things I used to avoid was writing. It was my worst subject in school, and I simply hated it for that reason. But because my job requires me to write, it wasn’t something I could get away with anymore. I decided to immerse myself in it in every way possible—reading more, writing more, and learning more. I can’t say I am a pro yet, but my writing has immensely flourished since then. 

Use failures or weakness as an opportunity to grow. After all, practice makes perfect. 


And that my friends are 4 life changing lessons that I learned this year. Cheers to the almost new year and many more life lessons to come!

Devon Day