Admittedly, I know how uncomfortably difficult it can be to use your voice to declare boundaries.
And it’s no surprise as to why.
All the conditioning from the patriarchal culture has influenced women to fall into the role of being the caretaker—to please and serve everyone in a way that forcefully demands you to self-neglect. You’ve been taught to sacrifice your needs in order to serve others. To put yourself last, and everyone else first, because somehow their needs are considered far more important than your own.
And when you do decide to say no—the world gasps.
“𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘢𝘺!?”
You’re shamed, judged, and questioned the minute you stand up for yourself. And all of it makes you feel wrong, so you find yourself dismissing what you said.
This is profoundly problematic, of course. But it explains why you, me, all of us women experience discomfort and resistance when it comes to setting boundaries.
The challenge is real, it’s valid, and I understandably get your struggle. But you can’t keep abiding to this. You simply cannot afford to put yourself last anymore. It’s not serving you and it’s working against you in every way imaginable.
It’s time to draw the line.
To stop saying yes when you mean no.
To build unbreakable walls that protect the things you just won’t fucking tolerate and autonomously decide what those things are.
To stop surrendering to someone else’s desires instead of your own.
Stand powerfully in your agency, baby girl.
Start right now. Start with something small, something easy and progress. I promise with each no, it gets seemingly easier.