how to feel confident during sex

Sex With The Lights On - Podcast Interview with Marie Wold

In this podcast with Marie Wold on The Grind & Be Grateful Podcast, I dive into the reasons women feel insecure in their bodies and how to overcome it. I get deep about body image, sex, and personal experiences I’ve had. Tune in to hear my story and learn tools on how to feel more confident in your body and in the bedroom.


Marie’s Instagram: @MarieeWold


  • Who is Devon Day? (7:57)

  • Idolizing unrealistic body types (9:30)

  • Food as a form of fuel and nourishment (12:10)

  • Empowering yourself with your experiences (13:37)

  • What’s keeping us trapped in our lack of confidence and self-acceptance (14:55)

  • The stories we tell ourselves (15:25)

  • Bringing awareness to self-limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs (15:40)

  • “You don’t have to take these stories to heart, and you don’t have to let them hold power over you” … “You have the power to re-write the script” (17:05)

  • Thoughts are just thoughts (17:46)

  • “Find where your insecurity is coming from, unpack the belief, and shift the narrative” (20:20)

  • “How boring would it be if we all looked the same?” (21:50)

  • “Nobody laughs the same as us, or smiles the same as us…” (22:09)

  • The Jealousy Cycle / Comparison Game  (23:10)

  • The difference between admiration and jealousy (24:10)

  • Sex With the Lights On (25:17)

  • “So many of us let our insecurities be our identity; you have insecurities, but you aren’t your insecurities” (26:55)

  • “We are conditioned to feel insecure about our insecurities” (28:16)

  • Porn – why we should NOT use it as a too to learn about sex  (30:25)

  • Let’s Talk about sex (32:55)

  • “We all have that inner mean girl…” (33:10)

  • Normalizing our bodies (34:10)

  • Silencing the noise; – being aware of our thoughts through meditation (34:40)

  • Roles – addressing and challenging stereotypes (36:55)

  • Communicating with our partners (38:10)

  • “Vulnerability helps us connect with people even deeper…”

  • Directing and validating others (40:38)

  • Vulnerability gets easier over time (42:36)

  • “Sex doesn’t always flow so seamlessly” (44:48)

  • Where to find Devon’s Guide, Sex With the Lights On (45:45)

  • One thing Devon is currently grinding for & grateful for (46:20)

How to feel more confident in the bedroom

Do you ever feel uncomfortable during sex because of your body? Have you ever found yourself avoiding certain positions because you felt insecure about certain things? Or perhaps you completely avoid sex because you hate the thought of someone seeing you naked? 

After working with hundreds of women through my coaching program I realized how common it is for women to feel uncomfortable during sex. So I decided to interview sexologist, Shan Boodram to get her input on some common insecurities women have during sex. 


How to feel confident with your partner when you feel uncomfortable or worried about certain “flaws” 


How Shan overcame her own personal insecurities


How to feel comfortable being naked in front of someone


Shan’s top tips on how to feel more confident in the bedroom 


How to create more sensuality


How to start feeling more comfortable talking dirty with your partner 


How to spice things up and make time for sex if you or your partner work a shit ton of hours, are always exhausted and/or have errands to run before and after work


What is a normal sex life?


Why do you think having sex is important? 




Shan has created a sex positive platform on youtube that has over 20 million views and growing.

If you haven't already, I highly recommend subscribing to her channel. She puts out extremely valuable content on sex, relationships and so much more.