how to stick to your goals

The Number One Reason You Can't Lose Weight

How many times have you committed to following a program perfectly, only to find yourself starting all over again…and again…and again?

Probably a lot, right?

You’re trapped in this cycle of ending and attempting—never actually getting anywhere. Never realizing your aspirations. And you’re fucking frustrated.

“If I could just get my shit together,” you think to yourself.

^^^ but this isn’t actually the problem.

The problem: you’re convinced anything less than perfect isn’t good enough. So when you fall short of the flawless expectations, you give up and restart later.

You’re going to mess up, babe. That’s reality. But those mess-ups aren’t the problem—believing your mess ups are keeping from your goals is the problem. As a recovering perfectionist, I get this is hard to conceptualize and release. But it’s critical if you want to affect real change.

So, here are two ways you can practice breaking up with it:

1. Instead of attaching to perfect action, get obsessed with taking ANY action: messy action, imperfect action, and above all, consistent action. Show up and do the work, even when it’s far from being perfect.

A habit is, at its core, an action taken so consistently it becomes nearly automatic. When ANYTHING is executed with frequency, every individual instance adds to the aggregate, but is by itself less important.

You don’t stress out over brushing your teeth, but it’s 100% the case you sometimes half ass it—what’s important is you’ve got good dental hygiene so your teeth don’t fall out of your head.

Same thing with anything else.

2. Reward yourself every time you take action—including the messy action, and especially when you wouldn’t have done it in the past.

If you stumble home drunk and still remember to brush your teeth, give yourself a high five.

Change is ALWAYS easier with positive feedback. Rewarding yourself for doing the hard thing when it’s hardest DESERVES some recognition. Those proverbial Gold Stars add up, building momentum.

With love,

Devi

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How to Finally Stick to the Program and Get the Results You Want

You’re not working out, and your diet consists of convenience—things you can easily grab on the go—usually not the most nutrient dense choices.

You want to lose weight, so you look up the quickest and best way to lose it.

You immediately decide to jump on this health kick come Monday, promising yourself you’re going to abandon all your old habits.

“𝘕𝘰 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴. 𝘕𝘰 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵. 𝘔𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴.”

In other words, you’re telling yourself, no more “bad” foods and I have to workout five days a week. Anything less is not enough.

After two weeks or maybe within the first week, you’re struggling. You want the pizza, you want to grab a drink with your friends, and you just don’t want to go to the gym today because work was exhausting.

You cave. You skip the workout and go to happy hour with your BFF.

Now you’re full of regret—you didn’t keep your promise because you didn’t follow the plan perfectly.

As a result, you give up, wait a couple weeks, and then try again. And again. And again.

Can you identify the problem?

(𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚝: 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎’𝚜 𝚝𝚠𝚘)

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦 #𝟏:

You’re jumping from 0-100, real quick. In other words, you’re doing too much too soon and making an impossible commitment.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝗶𝘁:

It should be: 𝚕𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚊 𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚝𝚕𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 —> slowly cut back on “bad” habits by replacing them with habits that are aligned with your goals.

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦 #𝟐:

You have the all or nothing mentality. Being a perfectionist does nothing other than hold you back. It holds you back from taking action, from moving forward, from acknowledging your wins, and from getting to where you want to be.

The minute you slip up, you feel like you failed and start all over. But that’s what’s actually messing you up—thinking you messed up and need to restart.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝗶𝘁:

Consistency and adaptability drives results, not perfectionism. Be consistent at least 80-90% of the time and be adaptable when circumstances require changes.

If you’re trying to breakup with perfectionism, but you’re struggling with the breakup, let me help you. Let’s do this together.

You and me.

Let me help you through the breakup. I’ll show you how let go of the all or nothing mentality so you can finally get to where you want to be. Click the link HERE apply to work with me. After you send in an application, we will have a conversation to see what you need and how I can help you.

I can’t wait to hear from you!

Devi

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HOW TO STICK TO YOUR GOALS

Are you having a hard time sticking to your goals? Don't worry. I got you! Below are my top 4 tips on how to stick with it.  

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TIP #1: START SMALL

I think a huge mistake the majority of us make is jumping up to level 12 instead of taking the first step. For instance, if you eat fast food everyday and don't workout at all, do you really need to start taking BCAA's? Hell no. You don't have to tackle everything all at once, you can start with 1-2 small goals at a time and work your way up. Not only does this make things much easier on you but you're more likely able to maintain it in the long run. 

TIP #2: NO MORE "ALL OR NOTHING"

I used to be guilty of the "all or nothing" mentality which was the biggest mistake I made starting my journey. I constantly felt like I couldn't get my shit together when the reality of it was, I was just being too hard on myself. You don't have to be perfect about it and I think that's where a lot of us mess up. It's okay to indulge or skip a workout. It doesn't mean you messed up or have to start all over, it means you are human.

TIP #3: BUY CUTE GYM CLOTHES

If you are anything like me, cute gym clothes make you feel more confident and push you to work harder. If I go to the gym with an outfit I don't like or don't feel comfortable in, I instantly don't want to be at the gym. So update your 2017 wardrobe with some Roc It Fit Apparel. You won't regret your choice. 

TIP #4: ACCOUNTABILITY 

Find someone or something that helps to hold you accountable. I can tell you from personal experience, motivation is not what keeps you there. Motivation is something that fires you up to start and while it may be there for a few weeks, it something that comes and goes. This is why it's so critical to find that sense of accountability. So I want to encourage you to grab a gym buddy or work with a trainer, like me! ;)


So that my friends is how to stick to your goals. I hope you found this helpful! Please share this with a friend who may need a little extra help sticking with it :) 

XO 

DEVON DAY