You want to start dating again. Or hop on Bumble BFF to foster new friendships, make new connections. Maybe, you want to hit on the good-looking human, sitting at the bar. Or perhaps, you want to start writing. Public speaking. Finally lift weights, not in the private room, but the actual weight room.
You’re inundated with all these messages you tell yourself, about yourself, preventing you from making those moves. They say something like this:
𝑶𝒉, 𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚. 𝑵𝒐𝒐𝒐𝒐. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒐𝒏 𝒅𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒔. 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒔𝒉𝒚. 𝑾𝒆𝒊𝒓𝒅. 𝑨𝒘𝒌𝒘𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒂𝒔 𝒇𝒖𝒄𝒌.
𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒓, 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒍𝒍 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒋𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒆𝒅, 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕.
𝑾𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈? 𝑭𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒔 𝒐𝒓 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒇𝒕 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒆𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒚. 𝑷𝒖𝒃𝒍𝒊𝒄 𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈? 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒍𝒍 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒂 𝒇𝒐𝒐𝒍 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒐𝒐 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉.
These are sabotaging and limiting beliefs you tell yourself, and they’re holding you hostage from experiencing the things you feel called and compelled to do. You continuously water these weeds. You treat them with care, like they’re roses you want to keep blooming. And you hold them by their stem, irrespective of the thorns piercing you.
It’s time to pull them out of your garden. To stop watering them and feeding them light. To dig up the root, and plant new.
As Don Miguel Ruiz says, “Life is an illusion created by your own perception and can be changed the minute you choose to change it.” You have the power to choose what you believe and what you don’t believe. You can bring awareness to the limiting beliefs, and rewrite the script into a story that better fits and serves your life.
Profound. I know.
You can let these weeds continue to fester in your garden.
You can pull them, plant new seeds, and let the beauty flourish.