I recently went through a breakup about 3 months ago and I admit it wasn't a fun thing to go through. Breakups suck. Whether or not you're the one getting dumped, it's not easy for either person. They are messy, heartbreaking and it takes time to heal from them which is probably the hardest part.
These past few weeks I've been helping a few of my clients and friends go through breakups which inspired me to write this blog post. So here we go..
TIP #1: Allow yourself to feel your emotions
If you read my last blog post, you know I'm all about feeling your emotions. While I do think "keeping busy" can help, I don't think you should avoid what you are going through. When you neglect the situation and ignore what you are going through, you might end up carrying that baggage into another relationship down the road (and you don't want that).
Allow yourself to take a few days or even a week to cry, to feel anger, and to express whatever you are feeling. I know it's not fun and it hurts but it's necessary in order to heal.
TIP #2: Go on a trip
Girl, I can't even begin to explain how helpful it is to just leave. Even if it's a mini getaway to a nice hotel or to visit your family in another state, just leave. This gives you the space that you need and will help you clear your mind. Not to mention, who doesn't enjoy a vacation?
TIP #3: Stop all communication
Trust me, I know how hard this is but it's very difficult to get over someone when you are in constant contact with them. It's normal to want to call them and try to "work it out" but you can't do this. You need to stop all communication even if that means blocking their number and unfriending them on all social media platforms.
TIP #4: Spend time with your people
By "your people" I mean family, friends and/or those people in your life who are there for you. They are the people to go to, to lean on, to cry on and to get advice from. They will help you through this so don't take them for granted.
TIP #5: Spend time alone
Now this can be another hard thing to do because you might hate the idea of being alone. But I can't stress the importance of this after a breakup.
Instead of fearing the idea of being alone, look at it as a good thing. Being single is a great time for you to focus on yourself. Take the time do things you've always wanted to do, try new things, and do things to help you get to know yourself better.
I mean you get to do whatever the hell you want, what's not to like? ;)
TIP #6: Get a dog
Getting a dog is essentially a way of having a new companion without it being a new boyfriend/girlfriend. You'll have something to love on and it'll love you back. It's a total win win.
TIP #7: Read Power of The Pussy
Thanks to my friend Danielle, this is easily one of the best female books I've ever read and I think every girl should read this book. I recommended this book to a few of my clients and they both told me how much it's helped them through their break up.
This book is basically your best friend who tells you what you need to hear. Not only will this help you get through the breakup but you'll gain confidence from it too and realize how worthy you are of amazing love.
You can order this on Amazon for the kindle version. I am telling you, download this book and start reading!! You can thank me later.