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Give Yourself The Love and Attention You Beg From Others

“𝑰 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖. 𝑰’𝒎 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑰 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖.” Words you so frequently say to others, but fail to say to yourself.

You sit there in the dark. Forgotten. Neglected. Abandon. Willing showing up for others, but never for yourself. You’re so out of touch with you that you’re lost. And you expect someone else to find you, to provide for you, to fill what is hollow:

You’re in search of someone to give you:
𝙰𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗.
𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎.
𝚂𝚎𝚡.
𝚀𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚝𝚒𝚖𝚎.
𝙰𝚏𝚏𝚒𝚛𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚍𝚜.

You tell them: 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘦; 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘦; 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘰𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘦, 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘮𝘦, 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘮𝘦; 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘦; 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨.

You put the responsibility on others to take care of you, to love you, to supply your needs. And as a result, you become so distant from yourself, so far from seeing your worth, and come to a place that lacks fulfillment.

Your cup will remain empty, until you choose to fill it on your own. Darling, please heed my words: it is your responsibility. To fill those voids, to take initiative, and to give yourself the boundless love placed in your heart. You can and you should give yourself what you’re so desperately craving. The orgasmic sex, the appreciation, the gentle words, the date night, the roses, the nourishment and the nurturing. All of it.

Your love is yours to give yourself. You are your responsibility—no one else’s. And when you fill up your own cup, others will only add and love will overflow.

Fill up your cup today, boo. Today and every day.

xx

Devi

How to get through a breakup

I recently went through a breakup about 3 months ago and I admit it wasn't a fun thing to go through. Breakups suck. Whether or not you're the one getting dumped, it's not easy for either person. They are messy, heartbreaking and it takes time to heal from them which is probably the hardest part. 

These past few weeks I've been helping a few of my clients and friends go through breakups which inspired me to write this blog post. So here we go..

TIP #1: Allow yourself to feel your emotions 

If you read my last blog post, you know I'm all about feeling your emotions. While I do think "keeping busy" can help, I don't think you should avoid what you are going through.  When you neglect the situation and ignore what you are going through, you might end up carrying that baggage into another relationship down the road (and you don't want that).

Allow yourself to take a few days or even a week to cry, to feel anger, and to express whatever you are feeling. I know it's not fun and it hurts but it's necessary in order to heal. 

TIP #2: Go on a trip 

Girl, I can't even begin to explain how helpful it is to just leave. Even if it's a mini getaway to a nice hotel or to visit your family in another state, just leave. This gives you the space that you need and will help you clear your mind. Not to mention, who doesn't enjoy a vacation? 

TIP #3: Stop all communication 

Trust me, I know how hard this is but it's very difficult to get over someone when you are in constant contact with them. It's normal to want to call them and try to "work it out" but you can't do this. You need to stop all communication even if that means blocking their number and unfriending them on all social media platforms. 

TIP #4: Spend time with your people

By "your people" I mean family, friends and/or those people in your life who are there for you. They are the people to go to, to lean on, to cry on and to get advice from. They will help you through this so don't take them for granted. 

TIP #5: Spend time alone 

Now this can be another hard thing to do because you might hate the idea of being alone. But I can't stress the importance of this after a breakup.

Instead of fearing the idea of being alone, look at it as a good thing. Being single is a great time for you to focus on yourself. Take the time do things you've always wanted to do, try new things, and do things to help you get to know yourself better. 

I mean you get to do whatever the hell you want, what's not to like? ;)

TIP #6: Get a dog 

Getting a dog is essentially a way of having a new companion without it being a new boyfriend/girlfriend. You'll have something to love on and it'll love you back. It's a total win win. 

TIP #7: Read Power of The Pussy 

Thanks to my friend Danielle, this is easily one of the best female books I've ever read and I think every girl should read this book. I recommended this book to a few of my clients and they both told me how much it's helped them through their break up. 

This book is basically your best friend who tells you what you need to hear. Not only will this help you get through the breakup but you'll gain confidence from it too and realize how worthy you are of amazing love. 

You can order this on Amazon for the kindle version. I am telling you, download this book and start reading!! You can thank me later. 


I hope this helps you if you are currently going through a breakup or getting over one. Please share this with your fellow friends who need some help too! :) 

Last but not least, you'll be okay. 

XO

Devon Day