peer pressure

Do You Feel Pressured to Always Drink When You're Out?

In the past, when I went out drinking, I felt compelled to have a drink in my hand at all times. The minute I finished a drink, Iโ€™d order another one. Always. Without fail. Irrespective of if I actually wanted another drink or not.

And when asked the inevitable questions...

๐™ฒ๐šŠ๐š— ๐™ธ ๐š‹๐šž๐šข ๐šข๐š˜๐šž ๐šŠ ๐š๐š›๐š’๐š—๐š”? ๐š‚๐šž๐š›๐šŽ.
๐š‚๐š‘๐š˜๐š๐šœ? ๐™ณ๐šž๐š‘.
๐™ผ๐š˜๐š›๐šŽ ๐šœ๐š‘๐š˜๐š๐šœ? ๐šˆ๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š‘!? ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€

Iโ€™d wake up the next day with an insufferable hangover (โ˜ ๏ธ), repeating the same conversation I had with myself the week before:

โ€œ๐™ต๐šž๐šŒ๐š”. ๐š†๐š‘๐šข ๐š๐š˜ ๐šข๐š˜๐šž ๐š๐š˜ ๐š๐š‘๐š’๐šœ ๐š๐š˜ ๐šข๐š˜๐šž๐š›๐šœ๐šŽ๐š•๐š, ๐™ณ๐šŽ๐šŸ๐š’? ๐™ฝ๐š˜ ๐š–๐š˜๐š›๐šŽ ๐š๐š›๐š’๐š—๐š”๐š’๐š—๐š ๐š๐š˜๐š› ๐šข๐š˜๐šž.โ€

As much I do love drinking wine and tequila, I donโ€™t particularly enjoy getting fucked up on the reg. I do, however, enjoy going out and being a social butterfly on the reg. But, I was in a predicament, because when I went out I felt obligated to continuously drink throughout the night.

I know you know this and I know I knew this, but you can go out WITHOUT drinking.

I get why this is hard to do because there is that social pressure put on you to drink, especially when youโ€™re in a bar.

When you tell people youโ€™re not drinking, they get all up in your space and chastise your right to say no. They question you. Judge you. And encourage you to, โ€œ๐š“๐šž๐šœ๐š ๐š‘๐šŠ๐šŸ๐šŽ ๐š˜๐š—๐šŽ ๐š–๐š˜๐š›๐šŽโ€ even though you already said no.

Listen.

When someone berates you for saying no, it has nothing to do with you and has absolutely everything to do with them. Itโ€™s stirring something up for them. Itโ€™s triggering them in some way, bringing up an insecurity, and challenging their beliefs. As a result, they project on you.

^^ thatโ€™s not your problem. Itโ€™s not your work. ๐ƒ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐œ๐ก๐จ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ .

The next time youโ€™re out, before giving that impulsive โ€œyes,โ€ ask yourself if YOU actually want another drink.

Youโ€™re under no obligation to have another drink, even when someone offers...even when all your friends are taking another round of shots. You donโ€™t have to conform.

Cheers to that,

Devi