self care

4 ways to feel confident in YOUR bikini body

From Bikini Body Challenges to magazine articles challenging us to “Get Bikini Body Ready,” we are constantly bombarded with this idea that we need to be lean, with perfectly clear and airbrushed looking skin to have a bikini body. 

Society is robbing us from our ability to accept and embrace our bodies exactly as they are right now. 

I’m sick of it. Aren’t you?

Don’t you want to reclaim your summers, your vacations and even your life? Oh girl, fuck yeah you do! 

This is how I suggest you do just that: 

Breakup with the ideal image of a “bikini body”

Society has perpetuated the concept that your body has to look a certain way in order to put a bikini on. But the truth is, every single person has a bikini body, because all they have to do is put a bikini on their body and viola - they have a bikini body. 

This bigoted idea of what a “bikini body” is supposed to look like is absolutely ridiculous. 

It strips us from showing up powerfully in our skin and is another way of deeming certain women unworthy of putting on a bikini. 

Your body is enough exactly as it is. You do not need permission nor do you need to follow unsolicited prerequisites to put on a bikini this summer. 

Action Step:

Go through your social media accounts and unfollow people who you compare yourself to or make you feel less. Follow more accounts that promote body positivity and self acceptance. This small action step can make a huge difference on how you feel about yourself and your body. 

Accept your “flaws” 

Having cellulite on the back of your thighs, stretch marks on your stomach and rolls as you move into different positions is not disgusting and it’s not a flaw - this is just something your body does and it’s completely normal. 

Sure, you don’t have to necessarily love these things about your body but you can start to bring awareness to these things without judging it or letting it dictate how you feel about yourself. You can accept it for what it is and move on with your day. These things are apart of your body but they certainly do not define your body. 

These things are normal and you are not flawed for having them. 

Action Step:

Normalize these things and call it for what it is: “cellulite,” “stretch marks,” “fat” instead of associating it with words like flawed, disgusting, gross, or ugly.

Be naked more

The majority of us don’t even feel comfortable being naked when we are alone, let alone being practically naked in front of a crowd of people. It can put you in a vulnerable and uncomfortable position when you are completely exposed and unable to cover up. I get it because I too felt this way. So how do you get comfortable with the uncomfortable? You do exactly that - you get comfortable being naked by being naked more.

Stand in front of the mirror naked (with positive thoughts). Walk around the house naked. Sleep naked. Get ready naked. Celebrate your body in it’s most natural state by being naked more. Stop covering yourself up in your own company. Embrace your body and all that it offers you and Take. It. Off.

Action Step:

Get naked! 

Wear a suit that makes you feel comfortable


Ignore any guide on what type of bathing suit you should wear for your body type because it’s irrelevant. You don’t need anyone’s permission to wear a certain suit. 

You don’t have to cover up or hide certain body parts, but If you want to hide or cover up certain body parts, you can absolutely do so. If you have small boobs, you don’t have to buy a bikini with extra padding. If you are curvy, you do not have to cover up with a one piece. If you have cellulite or stretch marks, you do not have to find a suit that will hide it. 

You can wear whatever you feel most comfortable in and you don’t have to apologize for it. 

Action Step:

Go shopping!! Try on a variety of different colors and styles until you find a suit (or three) that make you feel good in your bikini body. 

I hope that you found these 4 tips helpful and most importantly, put them to use! 

With love, 

Devon Day

P.S. HUGE shoutout to my dude, Andrew Downing, for shooting these amazing photos and helping me get all these beautiful women together to promote body positivity. 

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So many of us lack self confidence and struggle with body image, but it’s not our fault that we feel this way. We are constantly told by the media what we should look like so when we don’t live up to those expectations, it makes us feel like we aren’t enough. The media has completely robbed us from realizing our worth.

I decided I wanted to create a program to help women take back what was stolen from us. This is a 6 week program that is designed to help you step back into your power and love your body exactly the way it is. 

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How to deal with your emotions

The other day I was dealing with a whirlwind of emotions. So I decided to sit with my emotions and feel all the feels. This included sitting and doing nothing except crying and being angry for a straight hour. And guess what? That's perfectly okay because it's okay not to be okay. 

Ignoring your feelings is completely ineffective. It's important to let out your emotions and feel them rather than avoiding them by working more, staying busy or using food and alcohol as comfort. 

Trust me, I know it's not always easy to deal with what you are feeling, but it's absolutely necessary. I can tell you from past experiences, when I avoided my feelings or tried forgetting about it, it always ended up biting me in the ass down the road because those feelings would pop back up.

I want you to make the effort to be aware of your feelings and deal with them. Here are some tips on how to do that: 

1. Acknowledge your emotions 

Sometimes it an be difficult to understand what you are feeling so start by thinking of common emotions like anger, sadness, anxiety or disappointment. You might even be experiencing more than one emotion. Once you are aware of how you are feeling, you can begin to take the steps you need to in order to work through that emotion.

2. Sit with your emotions

What I mean by this is to feel those emotions. When you sit with your emotions you are allowing them to happen instead of resisting the urge to get rid of them.

It's important and crucial for you to put yourself first so you can deal with your emotions. Do what you need to do so that you can cope with what you are feeling. Even if that means taking the day off from work or just laying in bed all day to cry, you should give yourself permission to do so without feeling guilty about it. 

3. Validate your emotions

When you validate your emotions you accept them, you can understand them and you won't pass judgement for feeling them. Take the time to understand why you are feeling the way you are feeling, cut yourself some slack and realize that it's okay not to be okay. 

4. Work through your emotions  

Once you've experienced all the feels, work through the emotion. You need to understand why you are feeling the way you are and then think of how you can fix it. Depending on the situation, you may need to discuss your feelings with the person who hurt you or it might be something you have to learn to move on from because you can't change it.  

5. Do something positive 

Do something for yourself to help you cope with the pain you might be experiencing. As I mentioned before, a lot of us lean on food, alcohol or other unhealthy habits as a source of comfort so I want to encourage you to do something that is productive and positive. That could be taking a walk outside, talking to a friend or seeing a professional to help you through the situation. 

Sending lots of love to you and whatever you may be going through! I hope this helps you :) 


Devon Day