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Five Ways to Improve Your Masturbation Game

Happy National Mastυrbation Month! 💦 Here are five tips to up your mastυrbation game:

>> 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: pleasure doesn’t exist with pressure. Many of us put tooo much focus on reaching the ever-so-famous-orgαsm, which can often deter us from even reaching it. If you don’t experience an orgαsm, it’s cool, it’s fine, and it isn’t a failed experience.

Let’s reframe that way of thinking, because pleasure feels good, regardless. And when we heavily focus on this destination point, it detracts from the enjoyment of the journey.

>> 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲: focus on your senses, your breath, and how the pleasure makes you feel—not how you look, if it’s weird (it’s not), or the tasks you have to do tomorrow.

Be present. Whenever your mind races else where, come back to your breath.

>> 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐠𝐨 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐭 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐠𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐰𝐧: there’s no “right way” to mastυrbate. Every women touches herself differently and requires different things. To discover what feels best for you, it’ll take exploration and trail & error.

Sex with Emily stated it perfectly, your vυlva is like an Rubik’s cube. It takes time to figure out.

>> 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲: don’t just touch your vυlva, touch all of you. Seduce yourself, and touch yourself the way you’d want a partner to touch you.

>> 𝐔𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐲𝐬: you don’t 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 toys, but it does enhance your experience. My favorite toy company is Lelo.


Takeaway: explore, experiment, and most importantly, have fun 🤪

Your favorite slut,

Devi

How to feel more confident in the bedroom

Do you ever feel uncomfortable during sex because of your body? Have you ever found yourself avoiding certain positions because you felt insecure about certain things? Or perhaps you completely avoid sex because you hate the thought of someone seeing you naked? 

After working with hundreds of women through my coaching program I realized how common it is for women to feel uncomfortable during sex. So I decided to interview sexologist, Shan Boodram to get her input on some common insecurities women have during sex. 


SHOW NOTES: 

How to feel confident with your partner when you feel uncomfortable or worried about certain “flaws” 

0:00

How Shan overcame her own personal insecurities

1:35

How to feel comfortable being naked in front of someone

2:50

Shan’s top tips on how to feel more confident in the bedroom 

3:54 

How to create more sensuality

6:08

How to start feeling more comfortable talking dirty with your partner 

7:41 

How to spice things up and make time for sex if you or your partner work a shit ton of hours, are always exhausted and/or have errands to run before and after work

9:14 

What is a normal sex life?

11:19

Why do you think having sex is important? 

13:12


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GET CONNECTED WITH SHAN: 

Shan has created a sex positive platform on youtube that has over 20 million views and growing.

If you haven't already, I highly recommend subscribing to her channel. She puts out extremely valuable content on sex, relationships and so much more.

 

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/shannontboodram

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanBOODY/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shanboody/

Website: http://shanboody.com