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What "Slut" Means to Me

I’m a slut and I’d like to expand on what that exactly means.

So...let’s start with this: 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒄𝒌 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒔𝒍𝒖𝒕,𝒂𝒏𝒚𝒘𝒂𝒚? To me, a slut is a term used to describe how a women shows up sexually, which can look different from person to person.

Let me explain:

Most people assume a slut is a woman who’s constantly on the prowl to get fucked and tends to have one night stands frequently. And sure, it 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 mean that. Some women LOVE novelty regularly, which is totally okay and cool and her preference.


There’s also the woman who considers herself slutty, and yet, she absolutely hates one night stands (oh, hey. It’s me 🙋‍♀️). They’re sexually open, dress provocatively, and love to fuck. They just would rather spend quality time with someone and really get to know them before engaging in an interaction.

As I’ve stated, a slut can look entirely different from person to person and means a myriad of things. Neither scenarios are wrong or right, better or worse. They’re just personal preferences and those preferences vary.

Just because a woman doesn’t sleep around does NOT set her on a moral high ground. And if a woman does sleep around it does NOT mean she lacks disrespect for herself. It’s simply her choice and what she enjoys.

So, back to my original point: I’m a slut, proudly and unapologetically. However, it took work to get here. I had to spend time reclaiming the word, because quite frankly the notion that a woman is “dirty” for showing off her body or sleeping with people just didn’t sit right with me. Society conditioned me to believe it‘s inappropriate, but IT’S NOT.

A woman is allowed to explore her sexuality in whatever way feels most authentic to her, and whatever that looks like is her choice; her choice is not wrong nor does it mean anything other than what she wants it to mean.

And to me being a slut means, I’m sexually open and embrace the fuck out of it. That’s it.