validation

Are You Dependent on Others Approval and Validation?

๐€ ๐‚๐Ž๐๐‚๐„๐๐“ ๐Ÿ’ก๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ง... the attention and care and approval youโ€™re desperate to receive from someone else, is exactly what youโ€™re failing to give yourself?

Pause and ruminate on that for a moment.

Did it ring loudly in your ears like it did for me? What a concept, am I right? This notion that every need and desire you crave from another human are the very things you need to give to yourself.

The love.
The affection.
The undivided attention.
The quality time.
The words of affirmation.
The thoughtful gifts.
The acceptance.
The sโ‚ฌx.

All of it can be given to you, by you (๐Ÿคฏ).

When we depend on others to validate us, to love us, to hear us, and to support usโ€”it leads to our demise. We end up in a constant search, lacking fulfillment, always needing more, never feeling like weโ€™re enough, and completely losing ourselves.

And itโ€™s because weโ€™re searching outside ourselves; everything we need can be found looking inward.

You donโ€™t need anyone to give you what you want, you have the means to give it to yourself. And then, when someone else adds to your cup of love, it overflows because itโ€™s already full; as opposed to the empty cup that perpetually drains the minute someone isnโ€™t there to fill it.

Iโ€™m inviting you to take a closer look at what youโ€™re longing for and instead of finding someone else to give it to you, give it to yourself.

xx

Devi

Podcast Interview: Creating A Healthy Lifestyle + Healing Body Image

In this podcast interview with Amir Lamdan, I discuss the tools I've implemented into my life that helped me establish a healthy lifestyle and relationship with my body.

Topics Discussed In This Episode:

1:28 - What advice would you give someone who is just starting their journey?

3:30 - How did you create this mindset shift with fitness and your body?

6:50 - Finding YOUR happy (being lean does not equate to happiness)

8:46 - Self love and self acceptance does not mean you can't change your body

11:05 - Being independent of external validation

13:05 - Dealing with insecurities

15:40 - Stepping away from numbers and the scale

17:00 - Changing the way you speak to yourself and your body

18:37 - Who helped to inspire me to get to where I am today

21:55 - What my coaching program is about