There’s a quote,
“Need motivation to lose weight? Just eat in front of the mirror. Naked.“
In other words, let shame motivate you to stop eating until your body is small enough.
When I first read that quote, I was a teenager and at the time, I didn’t know any better, so it seemed like legitimate advice. It just reinforced and supported all the other toxic crap I learned about bodies.
I look back now, and it makes perfect sense to me why I developed an eating disorder, and had a completely morphed perception of my body for so long.
It wasn’t my fault.
And isn’t your fault either.
The messages we’re exposed to are forced on us, embedded in us, modeled to us, and still unfortunately taught to us.
It makes perfect sense why we chase after certain body goals, why we struggle with body acceptance, why we don’t feel lovable because of our body’s.
How could we when the dominate narrative affirms in order to be good enough, worthy enough, lovable enough...you must be thin enough? You must mold yourself to fit into this always-changing box of rightness.
Don’t get mad at yourself for feeling the way you do about your body, because it was never your fault.
It’s hard to feel at peace with yourself when the world convinces you to go to war with yourself. Be gentle and understanding with your process of unlearning. It takes time, and patience, and support.
If you’re looking for support and guidance, EmpowerHer Coaching is just for you and I’d be honored to provide that for you along your journey of healing. Together we’ll unpack stories, beliefs, and bring you to a place of freedom around food and your body. ♥️
