how to stop comparing yourself

Why You Shouldn't Compare Yourself

𝖧𝖨𝖦𝖧𝖫𝖨𝖦𝖧𝖳 𝖱𝖤𝖤𝖫 ➡️ 𝖡𝖤𝖧𝖨𝖭𝖣 𝖳𝖧𝖤 𝖲𝖢𝖤𝖭𝖤𝖲

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Social media captures only a glimpse of what someone is willing to show you, but completely abandons everything else. You don’t get to see what goes on behind closed doors.

You get to see:
A perfect life.
A perfect body.
A perfect partner.

You don’t get to see:
The disarray.
The insecurities.
The arguments.

Blemishes are concealed. And while people are completely entitled to their privacy and under no obligation to disclose the messiness of their life—it’s so easy to forget that THAT does go on.

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in believing someone actually lives a perfect life when all you see is perfectionism.

And this is why self confidence feels beyond your reach—you surrender to something that doesn’t exist. As a result, you’re robbed from your confidence and your worth because you’ll always be imperfect.

But, my darling, those imperfections don’t define you—they just make you human, like the rest of us.

No one, absolutely NO ONE, has their shit together. Your life, my life, her life. It’s completely chaotic, disorganized, and flawed—even though you don’t see it.

So, be conscious of what you’re consuming. Question the realness of it. And don’t compare yourself to people’s filtered lives...or at all.

Keep doing your thang, keep doing your best. Radiate in your beauty—it’s pretty bright, you’re pretty bright and your flaws don’t dim that light.

Love,

Devi

6 tips on how to stop comparing yourself

I think most of us know that comparing ourselves is not a good way to spend our energy, yet so many of us struggle with it and still find ourselves constantly doing it. Rather you are comparing yourself because you think you are better or because you think someone else is better, both situations bring negative emotions.

Comparison was something I struggled with for years and it was one thing that held me back from being able to completely love and accept myself. It's not an easy habit to break because we are put in situations daily that allow for it to happen. So with that said, I want to share my top six tips that have helped me overcome the habit of comparing myself to others.


TIP #1: REALIZE THAT JUST BECAUSE SHE IS BEAUTIFUL DOESN'T MEAN YOU AREN'T

This is easily one of my favorite self love quotes I've came across. It resonates with me deeply because I know for a lot of us girls, even myself, when we see a beautiful women we can instantly feel less. You are allowed to appreciate and acknoldge someone's beauty without it effecting the way you feel about yourself.

Instead of looking at the picture thinking one of us is more beautiful, I realize that we are both completely different and comparing each other just wouldn't be fair. My cousin,  Alexa , and I are both beautiful in our own unique ways. 

Instead of looking at the picture thinking one of us is more beautiful, I realize that we are both completely different and comparing each other just wouldn't be fair. My cousin, Alexa, and I are both beautiful in our own unique ways. 

TIP #2: COMPLIMENT OTHERS

I think more people should go out of their way to compliment others. From personal experience, complimenting others allowed me to be more comfortable acknowledging someone's unique qualities and beauty without it detracting from the way I felt about myself. Not only that, but it's a good way to spend your energy because it makes the other person feel good and it makes you feel good (at least it does for me).

TIP #3: LIMIT PEOPLE YOU CONSTANTLY COMPARE YOURSELF TOO

One thing I did last year was unfollow people on social media I constantly compared myself too. When I had first started my fitness journey, I followed girls who had the ideal body that I wanted to have. I realized that my news feed was filled with girls bodies and people I wanted to look like. While most people find that motivating, I found that it only belittled my self confidence and made me feel like absolute shit about myself. You are in control of who you follow on social media so choose to only allow for people who make you feel good about yourself, not less.

TIP #4: CONSTANTLY REMIND YOURSELF ABOUT WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF

Too often we spend more time thinking negatively about ourselves or focused on the things we want to change instead of being happy with what we are already have or are capable of. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make improvements but you are also allowed to be content with where you are now. You are allowed to remind yourself that you are beautiful as you are, and point out the qualities about yourself that you love.

TIP #5: CONTINUE TO WORK ON YOUR CONFIDENCE

Comparison can trigger from lack of confidence so similar to my last tip, work on accepting yourself and appreciating what you do love about yourself to help build up your confidence.

TIP #6: REALIZE YOU ARE NOT COMPARABLE

Last but not least, and what I think is obvious is that you are not comparable. You have different talents, unique qualities and special gifts that you offer to the world that no one else does. Comparing yourself to someone is like comparing pizza to a burger -- two completely different things and comparing the two wouldn't make sense.


So those are my top tips on how to stop comparing yourself. I hope you found it helpful! :)

XO

Devon Day