Can You Love Your Body and Still Want to Change it?

You can accept your body right now and still want to make changes to it. These two are not mutually exclusive. As a matter of fact, if both are applied simultaneously magic happens.

When you operate from a place of self-acceptance and self-compassion, changing your body becomes easier than ever, because you take care of what you love.

The misconceived notion that self-acceptance and self-love equates to laziness or stagnation is a silly concept. Neglecting your health and the myriad of other things that embody self-care is not a reflection of love.

When you love your body, you treat it with the upmost care and respect. This encompasses both speaking kindly to yourself and doing the very things that nourish it—working out, eating healthy, getting proper sleep—that whole thing.

So yes, it’s okay to want change, there’s just a fine line between where the desire to change is derived from.

If you want to change your body because you think being leaner will somehow make you more worthy of love, success, connection, confidence, and belonging—that’s a massive problem, because it’s morbidly untrue.

But when you want to change your body to improve the quality of your life OR simply because you fucking want to (hello autonomy) it’s a completely different story.

Hating your body lean doesn’t work, or at least never ends in a happy fairy tale. Cut that shit out and watch how much easier it is to make those desired alterations.

xx

Devi

The Scale is Preventing You From Seeing Progress

Here’s what I don’t want: You to spend your time, standing on the scale—anxious—waiting for it to give you validation or approval that you’ve progressed. Letting it take full power and control and define what you’re doing.

This device—an evil one, truly—can drain your inner peace and sink you into the depths of crippling self-deprecation. Any good feeling, or any ounce of pride can be sucked right out of you. And the more you feed into this cycle, the more it will make you feel something like itself—unimportant.

The scale is unimportant. Unimportant to your journey. Unimportant to your life. Unimportant to your progress.

There are a myriad of ways to track your progressions, and the scale isn’t the best method. It’s too deceiving to trust. Your weight will fluctuate daily due to your hormones, stress, water retention, sleeping patterns, muscle growth, and the various other factors that can affect change. It’s also very common for you to lose body fat, without dropping a single pound.

In addition to that, the scale tends to mislead you into playing a very dark game—the number game.

I’ve played this game once before. And it wasn’t fun. I became so blinded by the numbers, I let those numbers subtract from my worth and define the entirety of my existence and successes. It triggered unhealthy behaviors—the negative self talk, the excessive exercise, and the restrictive dieting.

I don’t want that for you.

I don’t want you to get beaten up from this game. But what I do want, is for you to conceptualize something really important: a number is just a number.

And the more you realize that, understand that—the more freedom you will have and the more progress you will see. You will become highly aware of all the ways you’re changing and growing because you’re not letting a silly numerical fraction be the deciding factor anymore.

Instead, you’re honing your intuition, focusing on how you feel, and celebrating every non-scale victory your making. The important shit.

So, stop putting all your attention on this malicious tool. Adapt new tools—better tools—to track your progress. Got it, baby girl?

xx

Devi

Is Working With a Coach *Really* Worth The Investment?

To be completely honest, I never saw the value in the investment to work with a coach. Why should I spend my dollars on someone when I have access to the resources I need right at my finger tips?

If I was uncertain, I could just type my question into the Googs and like magic—the solution appears. It’s fairly easy to learn the best methods and even stumble upon programs without spending a dime because all you need is the internet.

But is that really all you need? Just the information?

Here’s the thing: I had the information I needed to propel me forward, and yet, I was still running in circles, never actualizing my desires. And I’m sure you’re in a similar boat right now. You continue to convince yourself over and over you can figure it out on your own, but you find yourself still stuck.

Why is that?

Lack of information isn’t the problem, clearly. It’s the lack of accountability and support—the important fundamentals to achieving success. You need support. You need accountability. And you can’t provide either of those things on your own.

Once I realized that, I made a two thousand dollar investment for business coaching and it was one of the best decisions I made. For myself. For my sanity. And for my business.

And I know, making a hefty investment is petrifying—this is a valid feeling to experience—trust me, making the investment myself put me at the edge of my seat. But the value is there—and it’s worthy every penny.

Working with a coach will save you time, give you clarity, direction, and prevent you from experiencing the grief you go through when you’re on your own. You’ll have someone holding your hand and giving you a nudge when you’re not motivated—which is a lot more than you think. And most importantly, when you face the treacherous waters (and you will), you’ll have someone to help you sail out of the storm into the calm parts of the sea.

…so yeah, maybe the expense is worth it after all, don’t you agree?

Now, what you decide to do with this information is up to you. But, if you are ready to reach your greatest potential faster and with more ease—click HERE and apply to work with me.

Let’s fucking do this, babe.

xx

Devi

Courtney's Transformation Story

Courtney’s story and transformation after going through EmpowerHer Coaching:


What was your biggest concern before you started working with Devon?

My biggest concern before signing up with Devon was if it was going to be worth the investment or if it was really going to help me.

…soon enough, I discovered, it was worth every penny.

What did you struggle with the most before this program and how did Devon help you overcome it?

My biggest struggle I had before I started this program was that I hated my body. I was completely wrapped up in body image insecurities. I hated having my picture taken and would never let people post them unless I approved. Devon helped me unpack and overcome those insecurities. She made me realize cellulite and my body shape was completely normal. That I was defined by my size. And most importantly, she taught me to love myself—just as I am. She showed me the beautiful soul sitting inside me whose worthy of love and appreciation.

What was your favorite part about working with Devon?

My favorite part about working with Devon is her potency to motivate and having her be my biggest cheerleader!! She was / is my hype queen. I could tell her one small thing I did, and she would celebrate the small success with me. She inspires me and I always love hearing what she has to say.

Also, she’s relatable and real AF. It feels like you’re talking to a friend, not just a trainer or coach.

What is one life-altering lesson you learned through this program? 

One life-altering lesson I learned from Devon is to be compassionate toward myself. To be loving to myself like I am to others. To be kind and gentle with my words when I speak to myself.


Are you ready to create your own transformation? Apply HERE to be apart of EmpowerHer Coaching.

Rebecca's Transformation Story

Rebecca’s story and transformation after going through EmpowerHer Coaching:


What was your biggest concern before you started working with Devon?

My biggest concern when I started working with Devon was that I was the fear of stepping outside my comfort zone at the gym. I had never really been in the weight room and I was super insecure and nervous about working out in that area. Whenever I wanted to lift before, I would go into the women's section at my gym and work with what they had in there, which wasn't much.

Not long after starting my program with Devon, my confidence in the gym heightened. Her workouts were super easy to follow because she includes video demonstrations of the exercises. Now, I feel more confident than ever—I even wear crop tops to the gym. And, I never thought I’d say this, but I actually kind of like it when people watch me workout.

What did you struggle with the most before this program and how did Devon help you overcome it?

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I struggled with food the most before I started this program. I was restricted myself throughout my weight loss journey, which lead to overeating and losing touch with my bodies intuition. Devon taught me so much about nutrition and helped me see that I can still enjoy the foods I love while living a healthy lifestyle. 

What was your favorite part about working with Devon? 

My favorite part about working with Devon is how uplifting she is. She gives the best advice and was there whenever I needed her. Her program gave me the the knowledge necessary to be successful long term and independently so that I can continue on my own without her. Her program is worth the investment. She really does teach you how to live your best life. 

What is one life-altering lesson you learned through this program?

That I can accept myself—just the way I am—while actively striving for improvement. That I need to listen to my body and honor her needs. And that a number is just a number and does not define me.


Are you ready to create your own transformation? Apply HERE to be apart of EmpowerHer Coaching.

You Can't Afford to Put Yourself Last Anymore

Admittedly, I know how uncomfortably difficult it can be to use your voice to declare boundaries.

And it’s no surprise as to why.

All the conditioning from the patriarchal culture has influenced women to fall into the role of being the caretaker—to please and serve everyone in a way that forcefully demands you to self-neglect. You’ve been taught to sacrifice your needs in order to serve others. To put yourself last, and everyone else first, because somehow their needs are considered far more important than your own.

And when you do decide to say no—the world gasps.

“𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘢𝘺!?”

You’re shamed, judged, and questioned the minute you stand up for yourself. And all of it makes you feel wrong, so you find yourself dismissing what you said.

This is profoundly problematic, of course. But it explains why you, me, all of us women experience discomfort and resistance when it comes to setting boundaries.

The challenge is real, it’s valid, and I understandably get your struggle. But you can’t keep abiding to this. You simply cannot afford to put yourself last anymore. It’s not serving you and it’s working against you in every way imaginable.

It’s time to draw the line.

To stop saying yes when you mean no.

To build unbreakable walls that protect the things you just won’t fucking tolerate and autonomously decide what those things are.

To stop surrendering to someone else’s desires instead of your own.

Stand powerfully in your agency, baby girl.

Start right now. Start with something small, something easy and progress. I promise with each no, it gets seemingly easier.

xx

Devi

Alexis's Transformation Story

Alexis’s story and transformation after going through EmpowerHer Coaching:

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What was your biggest concern before you started working with Devon?

My biggest concern before I started working with Devon was that I was always going to be unhappy with myself. I looked in the mirror and hated what I saw. I was not happy with my appearance OR with my life. I struggled with my emotions and expressing how I truly felt. I was just letting life pass me by, as I sat in misery.

What did you struggle with the most before this program and how did Devon help you overcome it?

Before I started this program I struggled with loving myself. I would try to workout and diet but would not see results quick enough so I would give up. I would tell myself, "Oh well. I’m always going to be like this for the rest of my life." This triggered binges and more self-sabotage. Devon helped me overcome all of this by showing me how to love myself. She provided me with tools to help my find myself again.

Now, it's not just about the results. For me, it's about feeling great in my skin. I’m happy with myself and can embrace any size or form my body takes. I achieved what felt like was an impossible thing to realize.

What was your favorite part about working with Devon?

My favorite part with working with Devon was always having someone to talk to. It didn't matter what I was going through, she made time for me—to listen, to hold space, to give me advice. She's not just a fitness coach, but she’s your friend. She changed the way I look at the world and myself.

What is one life-altering lesson you learned through this program? 

One life-altering lesson I learned during this program is that you are NOT your size, your weight, or your appearance. You are your heart, your mind, and your soul. You are so much more than just a body. I learned to respect my body, to care for my body, to love my body. And I also realized how important it is to take care of your head space and protect your mental health.


Are you ready to create your own transformation? Apply HERE to be apart of EmpowerHer Coaching.

Kristal's Transformation Story

Kristal’s story and transformation after going through EmpowerHer Coaching:


What was your biggest concern before you started working with Devon?

My biggest concern before starting with Devon was that she wouldn't understand my needs as a recent vertical sleeve gastrectomy recipient. I had previously worked with a trainer who was adamantly against the decision, although the trainer prior posed many valid and understandable view points, I felt in my life the surgery was something I needed and wanted and would benefit my life for a healthier, happier lifestyle. The  vertical sleeve gastrectomy (VSG) decision was not an easy one to make because by no means is it an easy way out of dealing with food issues or creating healthy workout habits. I knew i needed a trainer who was non-judgmental in my decision and someone who would guide me to make healthy choices.

What did you struggle with the most before this program and how did Devon help you overcome it?

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Prior to working with Devon through EmpowerHer, I had a lot of challenges staying consistent with my workouts. Either I felt I wasn't doing enough or I felt burnt out because I would do too much. I had tried one on one personal training, group programs, and workout programs I would find online, attempting to do them on my own. All of which weren’t successful or satisfying or beneficial. With Devon's program, I know she was giving me workouts that suited me and MY needs, especially with all the changes my body was going through with my surgery.

Not only did I struggle with workouts, but food was a challenge. Staying consistent about eating protein and vegetables was a true struggle for me. With Devon, having weekly follow ups, truly changed my accountability with food and I was finally able to stay consistent with my eating habits. Just because I received a VSG surgery it did not fix my relationship with food, but working with Devon and learning her approach about mindfulness was a concept that helped me tremendsouly reframe the way I felt about food. I never ever felt an ounce of judgement by what or how i was eating with Devon, she simply just helped me reflect on my eating habits and how I could improve.

What was your favorite part about working with Devon?

My favorite part about working with Devon was our consistent communication. I worked with several trainers in the past, constantly attempting to stick to something only to fail and then to feel like I failed them and myself. Devon on the other hand, made me feel empowered, unashamed, unapologetic, and taught me to learn from my mistakes rather chastise myself for it. When I was looking for a trainer I wanted both a friend and a leader, someone who could support me in personal life, yet call me out on my bullshit. Devon provided exactly what I was looking for.

What is one life-altering lesson you learned through this program? 

The one life-altering lesson I learned through this program is that I’m human. Life is messy. I will go through ups and downs and there’s no need to be hard on myself or shame myself for the errors I make. Making mistakes is ok—in fact, it’s necessary—it allows me to see what’s not working and what needs changed so that I can better my life. I’m beyond grateful for Devon's guidance.


Are you ready to create your own transformation? Apply HERE to be apart of EmpowerHer Coaching.

Your Feelings Have Something to Tell You

It’s haunting you. It consistently shows up in the face of the dark, knocking—aggressively, loudly, and repeatedly at your door.

And there you are, shaking, absolutely petrified. Instead of opening the door to face the the very thing that keeps coming back, you lay there, paralyzed. Plugging your ears. Trying to ignoring its existence.

It starts to seep into your body. Trembling your bones. Trapping itself, uncomfortably in your chest. Gripping you so tightly, you begin to suffocate.

You wish it away, but it stays, consuming you.

Perhaps, my love, this dark presence is not here to scare you, but to serve you. Maybe, just maybe, your resistance to face it is the exact reason it remains.

It’s knocking louder and louder because it has an important message to deliver. It so desperately has something to tell you.

I want you to open the door and let it reveal its truth.

Because whatever visitor is haunting you—anxiety, fear, sadness, anger, emptiness—it’s purposefully placed in your life to serve you.

I promise. It’s presence is its way of loving you.

The reason it tightly grips on to you is to constantly remind you that you need to listen to it. It’s causing you immense discomfort in hope that you’ll eventually move from where you are because it wants to reorder your life.

All it wants is to help you. To support you. To show you that there’s work to be done in your life. That something in your life right now is stealing you away from freedom and joy. Something isn’t in alignment.

Don’t be afraid of it. Open the door—feel it, face it, talk to it. It’s arrived to support your expansion and guide you to your hearts deepest desires.

There’s light masked under the darkness. Unmask it.

With love,

Devi

Life Will Do Whatever The F*ck it Wants to You

Life will do whatever the fuck it wants to you, and sometimes those uncontrollable outcomes are undesirable.

Things are going unravel and unfold exactly the way they’re supposed to and sometimes, you’re going to fucking hate it.

You have two options:

You can either play victim and attach to the story of, “it wasn’t supposed to be this way.”

OR.

You can see these undesirable and often painful outcomes as an opportunity for growth. As a tool to learn. As the mapping to your higher, divine self.

Expansion, if you will ✨

Because maybe, just maybe these things are working for you—not against you.

Perhaps this pain, this muck, this shitty situation is just a disguise for something beautiful to flourish.

I choose option two, how about you?

Devi