dating

Dealing With Rejection While Dating

I’ve been going on a lot of dates recently and with that, I’ve received rejection. Quite a bit, if I’m being honest.

And it hasn’t bothered me. Not even a little.

In fact, I expect it. Not in a self-deprecating way, but in a way where I’m completely aware that I don’t offer what most want: a monogamous relationship.

Currently, I’m not looking for something serious or exclusive. I’m down for something consistent, yet casual, 𝘪𝘧 I like you. But nothing more.

Furthermore, if my feelings do change—and I gravitate toward wanting a relationship—I still identify as mostly non-monogamous. Some people don’t want that, and that’s okay. But I do, and that’s also okay.

Rejection is nothing more than, “𝙷𝚎𝚢, 𝙸 𝚠𝚊𝚗𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚍𝚒𝚏𝚏𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚗 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚠𝚊𝚗𝚝.”

We don’t need to take it personal, because it’s not. Rejection is about them, not about you. It doesn’t define you, detract from you, or make you less. It means that person wasn’t for you and you weren’t for them.

This is one the most important things to remember when you’re going on dates. You will face rejection and not everyone is going to like you.

And that’s not a problem.

You’re not going to be the key to everyone’s lock. Some will connect with you and some won’t. There’s even a chance you’ll come across a person who strongly dislikes you. For whatever reason they do. Maybe it’s because of the way you dress, the way you speak, the beliefs you hold, or they don’t have a definite reason—they just don’t like you.

And that’s not a problem either.

You don’t need to change. Or mold. Or pretend to like, want, or be things your not.

You be you. And let everything else adjust.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again (and again and again), but you don’t need anyone to like you. You just need you to like you.

And when you like you, dating gets easier, relationships get easier, and so does rejection.

Because at the end of the day, you know you always have you ⚡️