how to let go of negative thoughts

Letting Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs

You want to start dating again. Or hop on Bumble BFF to foster new friendships, make new connections. Maybe, you want to hit on the good-looking human, sitting at the bar. Or perhaps, you want to start writing. Public speaking. Finally lift weights, not in the private room, but the actual weight room.


You’re inundated with all these messages you tell yourself, about yourself, preventing you from making those moves. They say something like this:

𝑢𝒉, π’‰π’π’π’†π’š. 𝑡𝒐𝒐𝒐𝒐. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 π’ˆπ’ 𝒐𝒏 𝒅𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒔. 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 π’‘π’‚π’Šπ’π’‡π’–π’π’π’š π’”π’‰π’š. π‘Ύπ’†π’Šπ’“π’…. π‘¨π’˜π’Œπ’˜π’‚π’“π’… 𝒂𝒔 π’‡π’–π’„π’Œ.

𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 π’•π’‚π’π’Œ 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒓, π’šπ’π’–β€™π’π’ π’ˆπ’†π’• 𝒓𝒆𝒋𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒆𝒅, 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 π’šπ’π’– 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 π’Œπ’π’π’˜ π’‰π’π’˜ 𝒕𝒐 π’„π’‚π’“π’“π’š π’„π’π’π’—π’†π’“π’”π’‚π’•π’Šπ’π’. 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 π’ˆπ’“π’†π’‚π’• π’„π’π’π’—π’†π’“π’”π’‚π’•π’Šπ’π’π’‚π’π’Šπ’”π’•.

π‘Ύπ’“π’Šπ’•π’Šπ’π’ˆ? π‘­π’π’“π’ˆπ’†π’• 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 π’Šπ’•. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 π’Œπ’π’π’˜ π’‰π’π’˜ 𝒕𝒐 𝒖𝒔𝒆 π’˜π’π’“π’…π’” 𝒐𝒓 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒇𝒕 𝒂 π’„π’π’Žπ’‘π’†π’π’π’Šπ’π’ˆ π’”π’•π’π’“π’š. π‘·π’–π’ƒπ’π’Šπ’„ π’”π’‘π’†π’‚π’Œπ’Šπ’π’ˆ? 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒍𝒍 π’Žπ’‚π’Œπ’† 𝒂 𝒇𝒐𝒐𝒍 𝒐𝒇 π’šπ’π’–π’“π’”π’†π’π’‡. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 π’˜π’‚π’š 𝒕𝒐𝒐 π’Žπ’–π’„π’‰.

These are sabotaging and limiting beliefs you tell yourself, and they’re holding you hostage from experiencing the things you feel called and compelled to do. You continuously water these weeds. You treat them with care, like they’re roses you want to keep blooming. And you hold them by their stem, irrespective of the thorns piercing you.

It’s time to pull them out of your garden. To stop watering them and feeding them light. To dig up the root, and plant new.

As Don Miguel Ruiz says, β€œLife is an illusion created by your own perception and can be changed the minute you choose to change it.” You have the power to choose what you believe and what you don’t believe. You can bring awareness to the limiting beliefs, and rewrite the script into a story that better fits and serves your life.

Profound. I know.

You can let these weeds continue to fester in your garden.


You can pull them, plant new seeds, and let the beauty flourish.



Are Negative Thoughts Normal?

Do you feel like when you’re wearing a bikini, your insecurities tend to cloud over you? Your thoughts are preoccupied with how you look rather than how much fun you’re having (or could be having)? You think things like...

 β€œI look gross”
β€œHer body is better than mine”
β€œI don’t want to take my clothes off”

What if I told you that all these thoughts are harmless? And they don’t have to hold power over you?

What most β€œself love gurus” don’t tell you is that negative thoughts will come upβ€”and that’s okay.

A thought is just thought; you will have weird ones, silly ones, positive ones, uncomfortable ones, and negative ones.

But these thoughts will only affect you when you get lost in themβ€”when you attach yourself to the story and believe it as true.

But, you are not your thoughts. Don’t latch on to them, don’t let them control you and don’t let them take momentum.

You deserve to frolic around in your bikini without a single concern about your appearance, because your body is not wrong. There is absolutely nothing to worry about.

Drink your marg out of a red solo cup (because glass in water is dangerous - duh) and lounge around on inflatable tubes.

Have fun, relax, and stop giving fucks about things that aren’t worth giving a fuck about.



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