mindset shift

Taking Control of Your Inner Mean Girl

You know the voice in your head who habitually berates you and catalyzes a stream of negative thinking? The voice who feeds you poisonous thoughts, like:

๐šˆ๐š˜๐šžโ€™๐š›๐šŽ ๐š—๐š˜๐š ๐š๐š˜๐š˜๐š ๐šŽ๐š—๐š˜๐šž๐š๐š‘.
๐šˆ๐š˜๐šžโ€™๐š›๐šŽ ๐š—๐š˜๐š ๐šœ๐š–๐šŠ๐š›๐š ๐šŽ๐š—๐š˜๐šž๐š๐š‘.
๐šˆ๐š˜๐šžโ€™๐š›๐šŽ ๐š ๐š˜๐š›๐š๐š‘๐š•๐šŽ๐šœ๐šœ.
๐šˆ๐š˜๐šžโ€™๐š›๐šŽ ๐š—๐š˜๐š ๐š๐šŽ๐šœ๐šŽ๐š›๐šŸ๐š’๐š—๐š ๐š˜๐š ๐š•๐š˜๐šŸ๐šŽ.
๐™ด๐š . ๐™ธ ๐š‘๐šŠ๐š๐šŽ ๐šข๐š˜๐šž.
๐™ฝ๐š˜๐š‹๐š˜๐š๐šข ๐š•๐š’๐š”๐šŽ๐šœ ๐šข๐š˜๐šž.

Thatโ€™s your inner mean girl. Sheโ€™s hostile and apathetic and controlling. She loves to make you feel small and create upheaval, because thatโ€™s when sheโ€™s most powerful. She doesnโ€™t want to see you happy; she wants to see you sit in misery. And sheโ€™s been pretty successful at putting you in that seat.

All she has to do is get loud enough and fill your head with noise so you become completely incapable of blissful thinking.

Baby girl, itโ€™s time to put her in her seat. I want you to stand up for yourself and tell her to shut the fuck up. You donโ€™t have to listen to her or let her words constrict you. You can stand your ground, instead of allowing her to push you down the cascade of self-sabotaging thoughts.

You are not the things she tells you. Reclaim your power and come back to center. Breathe. You are not your thoughts. You are you. You are life. And you are light.

Anytime she tries to re-enter your life (and she will), tune her out and come back to your breath. Return to the infinite power of the truth and the present moment.



This Mindset Shift Will Dramatically Improve Your Life

I used to avoid things I sucked at. Writing? Forget about it. Public speaking? Oh hell no. Dancing? Lol.

I had a fixed mindset. In other words, I believed the fallacy that weaknesses couldnโ€™t be modified, altered, or polished. In my mind, it was: these are the things I suck at and these are the things Iโ€™m good at and thatโ€™s the way it is. I just had to accept it and stick to my strengths and dodge all my weaknesses whenever they were presented.

This mindset kept me stagnant and stifled my growth. It limited me. I avoided challenges and stopped pursuing certain aspirations. It wasnโ€™t serving me or my life by any means. Eventually, I decided to shift my way of thinking and adapt the growth mindset.

I went from โ€œ๐‘ฐ ๐’„๐’‚๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’…๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆโ€ ๐’•๐’ โ€œ๐‘ฐ ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’ ๐’‰๐’๐’˜ ๐’•๐’ ๐’…๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ.โ€

This is a powerful place to operate from and will dramatically transform your life, because...

>> You embrace challenges
>> Youโ€™re open to feedback and see criticism as a tool to improve
>> You heighten your confidence
>> You see failure as an opportunity to expand
>> You become multitalented and well-rounded (in my opinion, two very attractive traits ๐Ÿคค).
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As Neil Strauss says, โ€œ๐‘ฐ ๐’‘๐’“๐’†๐’‡๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’‚ ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’…๐’†๐’๐’• ๐’๐’‡ ๐’๐’Š๐’‡๐’†, ๐’๐’๐’• ๐’‚ ๐’‘๐’“๐’๐’‡๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’๐’“.โ€ Growth has become a core value of mine, and Iโ€™m constantly on the prowl to find and master new skills.

So hereโ€™s what I want you to do: think about something you suck at, but wouldnโ€™t mind being good at. Learn it. Study it. And master it.

Be a student of life โšก๏ธ

Have a Better Day Instantly with this Mindset Shift

This morning I woke up late, stubbed my toe, and spilled coffee all over my white shirt within an hour upon waking. I used to let this small cascade of unfortunate events set the tone of my entire day, which typically was, โ€œitโ€™s a really bad day.โ€

From there, I was operating from a negative head space. And when youโ€™re in that space, anything undesirable that happensโ€”youโ€™re going to look at it and say, โ€œOf course this happened, because itโ€™s a bad day!โ€ When you say itโ€™s a bad day and youโ€™re committed to staying thereโ€”you are (sometimes unconsciously) actively looking for things to confirm the narrative as true.

Hereโ€™s something I want you to consider, and then internalize:

You have a choice.

You get to decide if itโ€™s a bad day or if itโ€™s a good day. You have complete power of how you respond to any situation, at any given moment. So while you arenโ€™t in control of what happens to youโ€”you are in control of how you respond, react, and feel about it.

No one, and no situation can make you react or feel a certain wayโ€”youโ€™re in charge of how you choose to respond and feel (๐Ÿคฏ).

Trust me. I get why this is a hard reality to accept, because now the fingers always point back at you. Youโ€™re taking radical responsibility for your actions and feelings, which means you have no one else to blame but yourself.

But, when you realize youโ€™re granted with a choice, itโ€˜s a powerful gift that can dramatically alter the trajectory of your life.

The next time something undesirable happens, try this: Separate yourself from the situation. And then let go of what you canโ€™t control and accept what you canโ€”how you respond.

You can choose to play victim OR you can choose to say, โ€œit is what it isโ€ and accept the circumstances without it ruining your entire day.

I choose the latter, how about you?



Three Perspective Shifts That will Dramatically Improve Your Life

Three perspective shifts that will dramatically improve your life and finally allow you to get the results you want:

๐‚๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐€๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง >> ๐๐ž๐ซ๐Ÿ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐€๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง

Attaching to the idea you need to be perfect with every action step you take paralyzes from taking any step at all. And without taking those steps, you remain stagnant.

Of course it would be nice to perfectly execute each one of your goals, but it isnโ€™t going to work out that wayโ€ฆand it doesnโ€™t even need to.

To move forward and see results, you just have to take consistent actionโ€”even if it happens to be messy action.

Messy action might mean working out for 15 minutes instead of your planned 40 because thatโ€™s all you have time forโ€”and guess what? Itโ€™s better than doing nothing at all, because itโ€™s still action in the right direction.

Do something. Literally anything. Even if and when itโ€™s messy.

๐’๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐ž >> ๐€๐›๐š๐ง๐๐จ๐ง ๐‡๐š๐ญ๐ž

If youโ€™re running through the myriad of reasons as to why you hate something, it creates resistance making it even harder to do whatever it is.

We donโ€™t work well when we operating from a place of hate. It leads to rebound, self-sabotage, and like I said, a fuck ton of resistance.

So, rather than heavily focusing on the painโ€”replace that pain with pleasure. Flip the script into something positive; find a new association and affirmation that stems from a place of love and enjoyment.

๐’๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ข๐ง๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐‘๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฌ >> ๐๐ฎ๐ข๐œ๐ค ๐‘๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฌ

You want it and you want it right now. So you take all the drastic measures required to get those results FAST...only to fall off. Again.

Youโ€™re trying to bite off way more than you can chew, adhere to impossible commitment, and follow guidelines that only work for an extended period of time...if that.

If you want to create lasting results, you need to drop the quick-fix mentality and follow a program set up for long-term success.

There you have it three powerful ways to improve your life and get the results youโ€™ve always wanted โšก๏ธ Put them to action and watch your life drastically improve.


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