Fitness

Being Judged for Eating Healthy

Oooh, I’m sorry. Did eating this, offend you?

Show of hands if you’ve ever received criticism from friends or family for eating healthier? 🙋‍♀️

“𝙾𝚑, 𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚔 𝚊𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚝𝚑𝚢.”
“𝙲𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚘𝚗. 𝙹𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚎.”
“𝙴𝚊𝚝 𝚊 𝚋𝚞𝚛𝚐𝚎𝚛.”
“𝙸 𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚐𝚘𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚗 𝚊 𝚍𝚒𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝚎𝚊𝚝.”

They single you out and judge you because you’re choosing to make empowered choices for your body. 𝐋𝐎𝐋. Like, 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 take care of yourself. That’s sooooooo weird.

How fucked. Am I right?

I totally get how uncomfortable this feels, especially if you’re in the very beginning stages of making mindful choices. The constant nit-picking creates pressure making you second guess and can leave you feeling embarrassed.

Don’t let it, boo. You’re taking care of yourself and you should never feel guilty or ashamed for doing so.

Their judgements and criticism is about them, not about you. You’re a mirror reflecting something back to them that they don’t want to face. It’s showing them an insecurity and bringing up their own stuff about self-care. Deep down, they’re upset with themselves for failing to take responsibility of their own health.

But instead of making changes—like you are—they try to drag you down with them, so they project on you.

Nonetheless, even with that awareness, it’s annoying and frustrating. So, here are some responses to help navigate the situation with more ease:

>> “I’m not hungry, but thank you for offering.”
>> “This way of eating really works for me and I feel great, so I’m gunna keep doing it.“
>> “I don’t judge you for what you put in your body, so why do you feel the need to judge me?”
>> “Yeah...you’re right. How dare I take care of my body, that’s sooooo weird.”
>> “The food I put in my body doesn’t effect you, so I’m not really sure why you care? You should probably unpack whatever it is that’s coming up for you and figure out why my dietary choices upset you so much.

^^ (The last part is optional, but I like to be a passive aggressive bitch sometimes 🤷‍♀️).

Cheers to taking care of yourself and forgetting about what others have to say about it.

XX

Devi

Why NOT Setting Goals is Necessary

Over the past year, I haven’t tracked my macros or followed a fitness program, intentionally. I‘ve kinda sorta been in “maintenance.” In other words, I still showed up to my workouts and ate mindfully, but I’ve been relaxed about it.

...sometimes a little too relaxed. And it was very much needed.

Since high school, I’ve been consistently following protocols and constantly working toward a goal: lose body fat, build muscle, gain strength. I was perpetually going from one goal to the next.

That shit gets exhausting after awhile. And to be frank, I felt a bit jaded by the monotony of it all; going to the gym, lifting shit, putting it down, plugging my food into a calculator, tracking my progressions.

So, I decided to refrain from goal setting and kinda just do whatever the fuck I felt like doing. Sometimes that meant 15 minutes workouts, other times it meant 45 minutes, and occasionally it just meant moving my body to a few songs.

Listen, you don’t have to be doing and achieving all the time. Too often, we jump from task to task, goal to goal. As a result, we wind up bunt out, and yet despite our exhaustion, we continue to hustle.

I want to invite you to slow down. To do less. To just play. To have fun. To stop taking things in life so seriously, especially your damn fitness routine.

Chill the fuck out.

Slow is ok. Doing less or even nothing at all is ok. Change is ok. Being lazy is ok. In fact, it’s necessary. You’re human and human bodies don’t function well under loads of stress. You need rest. You need time from doing. You need space to recenter. Not just on your fitness journey, but from everything in life.

Give yourself those *mandatory* breaks. You deserve it. You need it.

To chilling the fuck out,

Devi

Overcoming an Eating Disorder

Food controlled about five years of my life. For those who don’t know, I suffered from a life-shattering eating disorder.

It all started in high school. I wanted to change my body to fit society’s fucked up standards of beauty. So, I started dieting. Obsessively. I was constantly following something and I tried just about everything. Juice cleanses. Low carb. Low fat. Paleo. Vegan. The military diet. Weight Watchers. Keto. Calorie restricting. There was even a week when I only ate baby food (😣).

I’d follow these diets for a week or two at a time, and when I “messed up” or deprivation sank in—I ate anything I could get my hands on. If there wasn’t enough food at home, I’d go to the grocery store to buy more.

Let me clarify: Binging is NOT Thanksgiving. It is NOT overeating. It’s eating a meal, and then scavenging through your cabinets to see what else you can eat; cookies, ice cream, bread, peanut butter, rice cakes—all in one sitting. You might start munching on food you don’t like. And after an episode of binging, you can’t move. You’ve stuffed yourself to the point of overwhelming discomfort.

For the longest time, I didn’t even realize it was an eating disorder. I assumed I couldn’t “get my shit together.” That I just needed to learn to control myself. But that wasn’t actually the case.

You see, an eating disorder is much deeper than having willpower around food. It’s a mask that disguises your insecurities, your pain, and your suffering. For some, it’s a coping mechanism to numb. For others, like myself, it‘s caused by body dysmorphia.

An eating disorder is not fixed by “fixing” your body or following a diet you can finally adhere to.

Recovery involves the unpacking of why and how it developed. It’s addressing the underlying issue and dismantling through all the narratives that are robbing you from feeling normal around food and in your body.

Healing isn’t linear, either. This journey is full of disarray; ups and downs. But healing is possible. I’m walking example and if you’re struggling, you will be one day, too. I believe in you. There is freedom. I promise.

Keep going. Keep trying. Keep believing.

Devi

How to Find a Great Online Coach

How to find a great coach AND the *right* coach for you 👇

Firstly, before anything else, as you may or may not know there has been an uproar in the fitness industry—rightfully and understandably so. People are calling out the coaches who are not delivering on they’re promises.

Of course, it’s utterly frustrating, upsetting, and downright fucking horrible that coaches do scam people. But, the unfortunate truth is in every profession, niche, industry—there are people who just...suck 🤷‍♀️

On the bright side, there are also those who don’t suck. And if we only focus on those ones who do, we forget about the those ones who don’t.

Please don’t let the bad coaches set the tone or diminish the value of coaching. Don’t let this paralyze you from making what could be best investment for yourself. Working with a coach can dramatically improve and change the trajectory of your life.

So, without further ado, here are two things to look for when picking a coach:

They get to know you prior to working together

During the application process, if they send you a link to pay right off the bat, without getting to know you—red flag.

Do. Not. Signup.

A great coach will ask questions to understand who you are and what you need to figure out if they can help you and if you two a good match for each other.

They’re open to your questions.

They might be an amazing coach, but they might not be the coach for you. This is why it’s just as important for YOU to ask questions before working with them.

Questions you can ask: what they’re expectations are from you as a client; how communication works; a rundown of what exactly you’re getting; the approach and methods they use; if they’ve helped someone like you before.

When you ask them questions, it does two things: it allows you to figure out if they offer exactly what you need AND it weeds out the bad coaches. They should be open and willing to answer questions. If they’re not open to your questions—red flag.

Hope this helps!

Devi

Do You Feel Pressured to Always Drink When You're Out?

In the past, when I went out drinking, I felt compelled to have a drink in my hand at all times. The minute I finished a drink, I’d order another one. Always. Without fail. Irrespective of if I actually wanted another drink or not.

And when asked the inevitable questions...

𝙲𝚊𝚗 𝙸 𝚋𝚞𝚢 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚔? 𝚂𝚞𝚛𝚎.
𝚂𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚜? 𝙳𝚞𝚑.
𝙼𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚜? 𝚈𝚎𝚊𝚑!? 🤷‍♀

I’d wake up the next day with an insufferable hangover (☠️), repeating the same conversation I had with myself the week before:

“𝙵𝚞𝚌𝚔. 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚍𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏, 𝙳𝚎𝚟𝚒? 𝙽𝚘 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚢𝚘𝚞.”

As much I do love drinking wine and tequila, I don’t particularly enjoy getting fucked up on the reg. I do, however, enjoy going out and being a social butterfly on the reg. But, I was in a predicament, because when I went out I felt obligated to continuously drink throughout the night.

I know you know this and I know I knew this, but you can go out WITHOUT drinking.

I get why this is hard to do because there is that social pressure put on you to drink, especially when you’re in a bar.

When you tell people you’re not drinking, they get all up in your space and chastise your right to say no. They question you. Judge you. And encourage you to, “𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎” even though you already said no.

Listen.

When someone berates you for saying no, it has nothing to do with you and has absolutely everything to do with them. It’s stirring something up for them. It’s triggering them in some way, bringing up an insecurity, and challenging their beliefs. As a result, they project on you.

^^ that’s not your problem. It’s not your work. 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠.

The next time you’re out, before giving that impulsive “yes,” ask yourself if YOU actually want another drink.

You’re under no obligation to have another drink, even when someone offers...even when all your friends are taking another round of shots. You don’t have to conform.

Cheers to that,

Devi

Is Your Diet Holding You Hostage from Living Your Life?

I used to follow diets that mapped out what I could and couldn’t eat, which essentially mapped out what I could and couldn’t do.

No alcohol meant no spontaneous trips to the winery. No flirtatious banter with a bumble date while eating an ice cream cone (because, duh, just trying to live The Notebook). And definitely no buying a round of tequila shots while dancing the night away with my best friends.

I was living my life in the confines of a diet and to be quite honest, I was fucking miserable. And at what cost? Sure, being punctilious with my nutrition allowed me to lose weight faster and kept my body fat percentage lower.

But this obsessive behavior around food and my body was taking control. The extent of my socialization was at the gym, and my friends stopped asking me to hangout because my answer was almost always, “I can’t tonight.”

This way of living was causing serious destruction, which eventually lead me to an important question. A question that essentially altered (and drastically improved) my life: Was being leaner 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 more important than spending quality time with my friends and living my god damn life?

The answer was a resounding NO.

I decided to redefine what held significance in my life, and my happiness was theee most significant. Feeling good in my body makes me happy, and so does building profound connections with people I love over food and cocktails and meaningful conversation.

Being lean really didn’t mean anything to me. It was just something I was conditioned to believe would make me happy, and yet it didn’t.

Now my life is a mix of eating nutrient dense foods and drinking margaritas with extra salt around the rim. It’s a mix of taking vitamins and taking shots. It’s a mix of honoring my body, while also honoring my happiness.

Nourishing your body is vital, so is nourishing your happiness. Neglecting one or the other hosts several problems, which is why both extremes just don’t work. There has to be a middle ground. There has to be balance.

So, if you’re ready to finally follow a program that teaches you how to have both—click HERE and let’s work together. I’ll teach you how, baby girl 💓 your health and happiness is important to me.

xx

Devi

Can You Love Your Body and Still Want to Change it?

You can accept your body right now and still want to make changes to it. These two are not mutually exclusive. As a matter of fact, if both are applied simultaneously magic happens.

When you operate from a place of self-acceptance and self-compassion, changing your body becomes easier than ever, because you take care of what you love.

The misconceived notion that self-acceptance and self-love equates to laziness or stagnation is a silly concept. Neglecting your health and the myriad of other things that embody self-care is not a reflection of love.

When you love your body, you treat it with the upmost care and respect. This encompasses both speaking kindly to yourself and doing the very things that nourish it—working out, eating healthy, getting proper sleep—that whole thing.

So yes, it’s okay to want change, there’s just a fine line between where the desire to change is derived from.

If you want to change your body because you think being leaner will somehow make you more worthy of love, success, connection, confidence, and belonging—that’s a massive problem, because it’s morbidly untrue.

But when you want to change your body to improve the quality of your life OR simply because you fucking want to (hello autonomy) it’s a completely different story.

Hating your body lean doesn’t work, or at least never ends in a happy fairy tale. Cut that shit out and watch how much easier it is to make those desired alterations.

xx

Devi

The Scale is Preventing You From Seeing Progress

Here’s what I don’t want: You to spend your time, standing on the scale—anxious—waiting for it to give you validation or approval that you’ve progressed. Letting it take full power and control and define what you’re doing.

This device—an evil one, truly—can drain your inner peace and sink you into the depths of crippling self-deprecation. Any good feeling, or any ounce of pride can be sucked right out of you. And the more you feed into this cycle, the more it will make you feel something like itself—unimportant.

The scale is unimportant. Unimportant to your journey. Unimportant to your life. Unimportant to your progress.

There are a myriad of ways to track your progressions, and the scale isn’t the best method. It’s too deceiving to trust. Your weight will fluctuate daily due to your hormones, stress, water retention, sleeping patterns, muscle growth, and the various other factors that can affect change. It’s also very common for you to lose body fat, without dropping a single pound.

In addition to that, the scale tends to mislead you into playing a very dark game—the number game.

I’ve played this game once before. And it wasn’t fun. I became so blinded by the numbers, I let those numbers subtract from my worth and define the entirety of my existence and successes. It triggered unhealthy behaviors—the negative self talk, the excessive exercise, and the restrictive dieting.

I don’t want that for you.

I don’t want you to get beaten up from this game. But what I do want, is for you to conceptualize something really important: a number is just a number.

And the more you realize that, understand that—the more freedom you will have and the more progress you will see. You will become highly aware of all the ways you’re changing and growing because you’re not letting a silly numerical fraction be the deciding factor anymore.

Instead, you’re honing your intuition, focusing on how you feel, and celebrating every non-scale victory your making. The important shit.

So, stop putting all your attention on this malicious tool. Adapt new tools—better tools—to track your progress. Got it, baby girl?

xx

Devi

Is Working With a Coach *Really* Worth The Investment?

To be completely honest, I never saw the value in the investment to work with a coach. Why should I spend my dollars on someone when I have access to the resources I need right at my finger tips?

If I was uncertain, I could just type my question into the Googs and like magic—the solution appears. It’s fairly easy to learn the best methods and even stumble upon programs without spending a dime because all you need is the internet.

But is that really all you need? Just the information?

Here’s the thing: I had the information I needed to propel me forward, and yet, I was still running in circles, never actualizing my desires. And I’m sure you’re in a similar boat right now. You continue to convince yourself over and over you can figure it out on your own, but you find yourself still stuck.

Why is that?

Lack of information isn’t the problem, clearly. It’s the lack of accountability and support—the important fundamentals to achieving success. You need support. You need accountability. And you can’t provide either of those things on your own.

Once I realized that, I made a two thousand dollar investment for business coaching and it was one of the best decisions I made. For myself. For my sanity. And for my business.

And I know, making a hefty investment is petrifying—this is a valid feeling to experience—trust me, making the investment myself put me at the edge of my seat. But the value is there—and it’s worthy every penny.

Working with a coach will save you time, give you clarity, direction, and prevent you from experiencing the grief you go through when you’re on your own. You’ll have someone holding your hand and giving you a nudge when you’re not motivated—which is a lot more than you think. And most importantly, when you face the treacherous waters (and you will), you’ll have someone to help you sail out of the storm into the calm parts of the sea.

…so yeah, maybe the expense is worth it after all, don’t you agree?

Now, what you decide to do with this information is up to you. But, if you are ready to reach your greatest potential faster and with more ease—click HERE and apply to work with me.

Let’s fucking do this, babe.

xx

Devi

The Number One Reason You Can't Lose Weight

How many times have you committed to following a program perfectly, only to find yourself starting all over again…and again…and again?

Probably a lot, right?

You’re trapped in this cycle of ending and attempting—never actually getting anywhere. Never realizing your aspirations. And you’re fucking frustrated.

“If I could just get my shit together,” you think to yourself.

^^^ but this isn’t actually the problem.

The problem: you’re convinced anything less than perfect isn’t good enough. So when you fall short of the flawless expectations, you give up and restart later.

You’re going to mess up, babe. That’s reality. But those mess-ups aren’t the problem—believing your mess ups are keeping from your goals is the problem. As a recovering perfectionist, I get this is hard to conceptualize and release. But it’s critical if you want to affect real change.

So, here are two ways you can practice breaking up with it:

1. Instead of attaching to perfect action, get obsessed with taking ANY action: messy action, imperfect action, and above all, consistent action. Show up and do the work, even when it’s far from being perfect.

A habit is, at its core, an action taken so consistently it becomes nearly automatic. When ANYTHING is executed with frequency, every individual instance adds to the aggregate, but is by itself less important.

You don’t stress out over brushing your teeth, but it’s 100% the case you sometimes half ass it—what’s important is you’ve got good dental hygiene so your teeth don’t fall out of your head.

Same thing with anything else.

2. Reward yourself every time you take action—including the messy action, and especially when you wouldn’t have done it in the past.

If you stumble home drunk and still remember to brush your teeth, give yourself a high five.

Change is ALWAYS easier with positive feedback. Rewarding yourself for doing the hard thing when it’s hardest DESERVES some recognition. Those proverbial Gold Stars add up, building momentum.

With love,

Devi

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