Fitness

"But, I Can't Dance."

How many of you avoid dancing because you subscribe to the belief that, “𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦” or “𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢 𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘳?”

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

For as long as I can remember, that was the exact story I kept telling myself. Dancing felt awkward, uncomfortable, and the thought perpetually playing in my head would be, “𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘤𝘬 𝘐’𝘮 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨.”

And to a certain degree, I still don’t. But the difference between now and then isn’t that I know how to dance with these fluid, choreographed motions—it’s that I let go; let go of what I think I’m supposed to look like and let go of how others might perceive me.

You don’t have to be a dancer to move your body to a song, boo—𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞.

All you have to do is move your body in whatever way feels right and sometimes it might look weird and silly and that’s perfectly okay.

Dancing is a beautiful way to express yourself, foster a deeper connection with your body, and most importantly bring you to the present moment.

Do it. Dance. Freely. Habitually. It’s good for your soul.

xx

Devi

Dear Restrictive Diets

Dear restrictive diets,

It’s not me, it’s you. You’re controlling, demanding, and require too much of my attention.

I did my absolute best to show up and listen to your requirements, but it was never good enough. If I wasn’t perfect, I needed to do better. You failed to acknowledge the improvements I did make, and only focused on what I did wrong.

I’m tired of feeling anxious about constantly trying to be punctilious with your rules and the guilt that comes with it when I’m not.

I’m sick of hearing I’d look better if I lost weight.

I’m done listening to you when it comes to what I can and can’t do. I have a life to live and you can’t be holding me back from experiencing it.

I’m going to listen to my intuition instead of your arbitrary rules. I’m going to live my life in accordance to what empowers me, my body, and my life.

It’s over.
Devi

Whose with me? Show of hands if you’re breaking up with restrictive diets too 🙋‍♀️

If you want to learn a better approach, join my free course: Master Your Mindset for Ultimate Fat Loss. I’ll teach you how to lose body fat without following restrictive protocols AND teach you how to accept your body before you lose a single pound 🖤😘

Five Smart & Healthy Habits to Practice Whenever You go Out for Drinks

Five smart habits to practice whenever you go out for drinks (↓):

>> Before ordering another round, ask yourself: would drinking another glass really enhance the experience or would one more just be superfluous?

>> Hydrate. Drink some water between drinks, and chug a glass (or two) before bed. It’ll help prevent those insufferable hangovers 🤪.

>> Before giving that impulsive “yes” when someone says, “let’s take shots!” ask yourself if YOU actually want a shot.

You’re under no obligation to say yes, even when someone offers...even when all your friends are taking shots. You don’t have to conform or give into social pressure.

This is a perfect opportunity for you to practice declaring healthy boundaries.

>> Pace yourself. Drink 𝘴𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳.

>> If you want to go out to socialize—without drinking—give yourself permission to do so. You don’t need to drink a single drop to go out. I do it all the time and still have just as much fun.

The overarching theme: be mindful and intentional about your choices, boo. You body and your wallet will thank you.

Cheers to that.

Love your favorite oenophile,

Devi

Overcoming an Eating Disorder & Body Dysmorphia

It’s been a little over two years since I severely suffered from an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. And fuck. That struggle was life shattering in all the ways something can be, because it affected so many areas of my life.

Hating my body started in my earliest days, too. And the more and more I became aware of my body, the more and more that feeling intensified.

There were so many factors that lead into this. To start, I watched other women in my life obsess over their bodies and listened to them shame themselves for not being small enough.

That had it’s own effect and in a way programmed me to believe that was normal behavior.

Mixed with that, there was (still is) social pressure to look a certain way; constantly inundated with images and messages on how you should look. You’re spoon fed the idea that if you want to be loved, popular, successful, celebrated, happy...you MUST live up to these flawless expectations.

And I tried and I never achieved it, because it’s impossible. Because perfection doesn’t exist. Because what you see is distorted and photoshopped.

But, at the time, I didn’t have that awareness, so I grew to hate my body even more. And that hate and obsession is what catalyzed my eating disorder.

This a huge epidemic so many face, and it’s no surprise as to why. We’re taught how to hate ourselves. To berate ourselves, judge ourselves, be hard on ourselves, and constantly change ourselves.

Instead of being taught to accept, while striving to be the best version of ourselves—in a compassionate and loving way.

Once I realized that for myself, I had to spend time digging, unpacking, and relearning years of conditioning. And anyone who says that process is easy, they’re lying to you. It’s not. Loving yourself is hard because you’re told day in and day out not to.

I want to remind you not to hate yourself FOR hating yourself, because it isn’t your fault. To practice being gentler with yourself a little more everyday. To practice replacing hate with something neutral, as opposed to jumping right into something positive. To practice, even when resistance comes in. To practice, because you deserve it. Because you’re worth it.

xx

Devi

Master Your Mindset for Ultimate Fat Loss

You so desperately want to lose body fat and gain control of your habits, but you’re struggling. You’ve tried everything and wind up with the same outcome each time: back at square one, because you fell off...again.

At this point changing your body feels impossible. It seems like no matter what you do, you’re constantly stuck in that fucking awful ‘end-and-attempt’ cycle.

You’re fucking vexed (😣) and probably thinking to yourself, “𝚆𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚏𝚞𝚌𝚔 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚖𝚎?! 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝙸 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜? 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝙸 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚖𝚢 𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚝 𝚝𝚘𝚐𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛?

Here’s the thing, boo. Most fat loss programs are doing you a huge disservice. While they give you the principals to lose body fat, they leave out the *most* important component for long term success: the mental work.

You can’t have a sustainable physical transformation, 𝘶𝘯𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 you have a mental one too.

And that’s exactly what I’m going to teach you inside my FREE course: Master Your Mindset for Ultimate Fat Loss.

In this course, I’m going to show you what’s holding you back, exactly how to fix it, and help you completely transform your mindset. If you’re ready to finally gain control and achieve the results you’ve been longing for—head to the link HERE to join the course for free 😘 see ya inside!

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Being Judged for Eating Healthy

Oooh, I’m sorry. Did eating this, offend you?

Show of hands if you’ve ever received criticism from friends or family for eating healthier? 🙋‍♀️

“𝙾𝚑, 𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚔 𝚊𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚝𝚑𝚢.”
“𝙲𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚘𝚗. 𝙹𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚎.”
“𝙴𝚊𝚝 𝚊 𝚋𝚞𝚛𝚐𝚎𝚛.”
“𝙸 𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚐𝚘𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚗 𝚊 𝚍𝚒𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚌𝚊𝚗’𝚝 𝚎𝚊𝚝.”

They single you out and judge you because you’re choosing to make empowered choices for your body. 𝐋𝐎𝐋. Like, 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 take care of yourself. That’s sooooooo weird.

How fucked. Am I right?

I totally get how uncomfortable this feels, especially if you’re in the very beginning stages of making mindful choices. The constant nit-picking creates pressure making you second guess and can leave you feeling embarrassed.

Don’t let it, boo. You’re taking care of yourself and you should never feel guilty or ashamed for doing so.

Their judgements and criticism is about them, not about you. You’re a mirror reflecting something back to them that they don’t want to face. It’s showing them an insecurity and bringing up their own stuff about self-care. Deep down, they’re upset with themselves for failing to take responsibility of their own health.

But instead of making changes—like you are—they try to drag you down with them, so they project on you.

Nonetheless, even with that awareness, it’s annoying and frustrating. So, here are some responses to help navigate the situation with more ease:

>> “I’m not hungry, but thank you for offering.”
>> “This way of eating really works for me and I feel great, so I’m gunna keep doing it.“
>> “I don’t judge you for what you put in your body, so why do you feel the need to judge me?”
>> “Yeah...you’re right. How dare I take care of my body, that’s sooooo weird.”
>> “The food I put in my body doesn’t effect you, so I’m not really sure why you care? You should probably unpack whatever it is that’s coming up for you and figure out why my dietary choices upset you so much.

^^ (The last part is optional, but I like to be a passive aggressive bitch sometimes 🤷‍♀️).

Cheers to taking care of yourself and forgetting about what others have to say about it.

XX

Devi

Why NOT Setting Goals is Necessary

Over the past year, I haven’t tracked my macros or followed a fitness program, intentionally. I‘ve kinda sorta been in “maintenance.” In other words, I still showed up to my workouts and ate mindfully, but I’ve been relaxed about it.

...sometimes a little too relaxed. And it was very much needed.

Since high school, I’ve been consistently following protocols and constantly working toward a goal: lose body fat, build muscle, gain strength. I was perpetually going from one goal to the next.

That shit gets exhausting after awhile. And to be frank, I felt a bit jaded by the monotony of it all; going to the gym, lifting shit, putting it down, plugging my food into a calculator, tracking my progressions.

So, I decided to refrain from goal setting and kinda just do whatever the fuck I felt like doing. Sometimes that meant 15 minutes workouts, other times it meant 45 minutes, and occasionally it just meant moving my body to a few songs.

Listen, you don’t have to be doing and achieving all the time. Too often, we jump from task to task, goal to goal. As a result, we wind up bunt out, and yet despite our exhaustion, we continue to hustle.

I want to invite you to slow down. To do less. To just play. To have fun. To stop taking things in life so seriously, especially your damn fitness routine.

Chill the fuck out.

Slow is ok. Doing less or even nothing at all is ok. Change is ok. Being lazy is ok. In fact, it’s necessary. You’re human and human bodies don’t function well under loads of stress. You need rest. You need time from doing. You need space to recenter. Not just on your fitness journey, but from everything in life.

Give yourself those *mandatory* breaks. You deserve it. You need it.

To chilling the fuck out,

Devi

Overcoming an Eating Disorder

Food controlled about five years of my life. For those who don’t know, I suffered from a life-shattering eating disorder.

It all started in high school. I wanted to change my body to fit society’s fucked up standards of beauty. So, I started dieting. Obsessively. I was constantly following something and I tried just about everything. Juice cleanses. Low carb. Low fat. Paleo. Vegan. The military diet. Weight Watchers. Keto. Calorie restricting. There was even a week when I only ate baby food (😣).

I’d follow these diets for a week or two at a time, and when I “messed up” or deprivation sank in—I ate anything I could get my hands on. If there wasn’t enough food at home, I’d go to the grocery store to buy more.

Let me clarify: Binging is NOT Thanksgiving. It is NOT overeating. It’s eating a meal, and then scavenging through your cabinets to see what else you can eat; cookies, ice cream, bread, peanut butter, rice cakes—all in one sitting. You might start munching on food you don’t like. And after an episode of binging, you can’t move. You’ve stuffed yourself to the point of overwhelming discomfort.

For the longest time, I didn’t even realize it was an eating disorder. I assumed I couldn’t “get my shit together.” That I just needed to learn to control myself. But that wasn’t actually the case.

You see, an eating disorder is much deeper than having willpower around food. It’s a mask that disguises your insecurities, your pain, and your suffering. For some, it’s a coping mechanism to numb. For others, like myself, it‘s caused by body dysmorphia.

An eating disorder is not fixed by “fixing” your body or following a diet you can finally adhere to.

Recovery involves the unpacking of why and how it developed. It’s addressing the underlying issue and dismantling through all the narratives that are robbing you from feeling normal around food and in your body.

Healing isn’t linear, either. This journey is full of disarray; ups and downs. But healing is possible. I’m walking example and if you’re struggling, you will be one day, too. I believe in you. There is freedom. I promise.

Keep going. Keep trying. Keep believing.

Devi

How to Find a Great Online Coach

How to find a great coach AND the *right* coach for you 👇

Firstly, before anything else, as you may or may not know there has been an uproar in the fitness industry—rightfully and understandably so. People are calling out the coaches who are not delivering on they’re promises.

Of course, it’s utterly frustrating, upsetting, and downright fucking horrible that coaches do scam people. But, the unfortunate truth is in every profession, niche, industry—there are people who just...suck 🤷‍♀️

On the bright side, there are also those who don’t suck. And if we only focus on those ones who do, we forget about the those ones who don’t.

Please don’t let the bad coaches set the tone or diminish the value of coaching. Don’t let this paralyze you from making what could be best investment for yourself. Working with a coach can dramatically improve and change the trajectory of your life.

So, without further ado, here are two things to look for when picking a coach:

They get to know you prior to working together

During the application process, if they send you a link to pay right off the bat, without getting to know you—red flag.

Do. Not. Signup.

A great coach will ask questions to understand who you are and what you need to figure out if they can help you and if you two a good match for each other.

They’re open to your questions.

They might be an amazing coach, but they might not be the coach for you. This is why it’s just as important for YOU to ask questions before working with them.

Questions you can ask: what they’re expectations are from you as a client; how communication works; a rundown of what exactly you’re getting; the approach and methods they use; if they’ve helped someone like you before.

When you ask them questions, it does two things: it allows you to figure out if they offer exactly what you need AND it weeds out the bad coaches. They should be open and willing to answer questions. If they’re not open to your questions—red flag.

Hope this helps!

Devi

Do You Feel Pressured to Always Drink When You're Out?

In the past, when I went out drinking, I felt compelled to have a drink in my hand at all times. The minute I finished a drink, I’d order another one. Always. Without fail. Irrespective of if I actually wanted another drink or not.

And when asked the inevitable questions...

𝙲𝚊𝚗 𝙸 𝚋𝚞𝚢 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚔? 𝚂𝚞𝚛𝚎.
𝚂𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚜? 𝙳𝚞𝚑.
𝙼𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚜? 𝚈𝚎𝚊𝚑!? 🤷‍♀

I’d wake up the next day with an insufferable hangover (☠️), repeating the same conversation I had with myself the week before:

“𝙵𝚞𝚌𝚔. 𝚆𝚑𝚢 𝚍𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏, 𝙳𝚎𝚟𝚒? 𝙽𝚘 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚢𝚘𝚞.”

As much I do love drinking wine and tequila, I don’t particularly enjoy getting fucked up on the reg. I do, however, enjoy going out and being a social butterfly on the reg. But, I was in a predicament, because when I went out I felt obligated to continuously drink throughout the night.

I know you know this and I know I knew this, but you can go out WITHOUT drinking.

I get why this is hard to do because there is that social pressure put on you to drink, especially when you’re in a bar.

When you tell people you’re not drinking, they get all up in your space and chastise your right to say no. They question you. Judge you. And encourage you to, “𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎” even though you already said no.

Listen.

When someone berates you for saying no, it has nothing to do with you and has absolutely everything to do with them. It’s stirring something up for them. It’s triggering them in some way, bringing up an insecurity, and challenging their beliefs. As a result, they project on you.

^^ that’s not your problem. It’s not your work. 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠.

The next time you’re out, before giving that impulsive “yes,” ask yourself if YOU actually want another drink.

You’re under no obligation to have another drink, even when someone offers...even when all your friends are taking another round of shots. You don’t have to conform.

Cheers to that,

Devi