body confidence

Taking Control of Your Inner Mean Girl

You know the voice in your head who habitually berates you and catalyzes a stream of negative thinking? The voice who feeds you poisonous thoughts, like:

𝚈𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚎𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑.
𝚈𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚜𝚖𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚎𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑.
𝚈𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚑𝚕𝚎𝚜𝚜.
𝚈𝚘𝚞’𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚍𝚎𝚜𝚎𝚛𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚘𝚏 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎.
𝙴𝚠. 𝙸 𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞.
𝙽𝚘𝚋𝚘𝚍𝚢 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞.

That’s your inner mean girl. She’s hostile and apathetic and controlling. She loves to make you feel small and create upheaval, because that’s when she’s most powerful. She doesn’t want to see you happy; she wants to see you sit in misery. And she’s been pretty successful at putting you in that seat.

All she has to do is get loud enough and fill your head with noise so you become completely incapable of blissful thinking.

Baby girl, it’s time to put her in her seat. I want you to stand up for yourself and tell her to shut the fuck up. You don’t have to listen to her or let her words constrict you. You can stand your ground, instead of allowing her to push you down the cascade of self-sabotaging thoughts.

You are not the things she tells you. Reclaim your power and come back to center. Breathe. You are not your thoughts. You are you. You are life. And you are light.

Anytime she tries to re-enter your life (and she will), tune her out and come back to your breath. Return to the infinite power of the truth and the present moment.

xx

Devi

Why You Shouldn't Compare Yourself

𝖧𝖨𝖦𝖧𝖫𝖨𝖦𝖧𝖳 𝖱𝖤𝖤𝖫 ➡️ 𝖡𝖤𝖧𝖨𝖭𝖣 𝖳𝖧𝖤 𝖲𝖢𝖤𝖭𝖤𝖲

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Social media captures only a glimpse of what someone is willing to show you, but completely abandons everything else. You don’t get to see what goes on behind closed doors.

You get to see:
A perfect life.
A perfect body.
A perfect partner.

You don’t get to see:
The disarray.
The insecurities.
The arguments.

Blemishes are concealed. And while people are completely entitled to their privacy and under no obligation to disclose the messiness of their life—it’s so easy to forget that THAT does go on.

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in believing someone actually lives a perfect life when all you see is perfectionism.

And this is why self confidence feels beyond your reach—you surrender to something that doesn’t exist. As a result, you’re robbed from your confidence and your worth because you’ll always be imperfect.

But, my darling, those imperfections don’t define you—they just make you human, like the rest of us.

No one, absolutely NO ONE, has their shit together. Your life, my life, her life. It’s completely chaotic, disorganized, and flawed—even though you don’t see it.

So, be conscious of what you’re consuming. Question the realness of it. And don’t compare yourself to people’s filtered lives...or at all.

Keep doing your thang, keep doing your best. Radiate in your beauty—it’s pretty bright, you’re pretty bright and your flaws don’t dim that light.

Love,

Devi

Three Ways to Practice Body Acceptance

Do I love my stretch marks and cellulite? No, I don’t love them—I also don’t hate them. I just accept them and I’m okay with the fact that they’re there.

Self love and body acceptance doesn't exactly mean loving every single part of your body. And this might catch you by surprise because it seems to go against everything that love and acceptance stands for—but it’s not.

It’s not about learning to love and romanticize over something you don’t like. It’s about normalizing it, accepting it for what it is and not letting it define you.

Instead of trying to “love” something you don’t love, try this instead:

1. Bring awareness to it without judging it or linking it to a negative meaning. If you see cellulite, call it for what it is, rather than saying something like: gross, disgusting, ugly. Keep it at cellulite without the self sabotaging story attached to it.

2. Normalize it and accept it for what it is. Remind yourself that rolls, folds, and dimples are just normal things that your body creates.

3. Don’t attach it to your worth. It doesn’t deem you as unworthy and it doesn’t represent your beauty. These things are apart of your body, but they certainly don’t define it.



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Love,

Devi

Dear Victoria Secret, Lack of Diversity is a Problem.

I was 15 years old when I became infatuated with the models from the VS Fashion Show.

I wanted to look like them. Be like them.

And so obviously, I did everything I could to achieve my desire. I vividly remember typing into Google, “Adriana Lima’s and Miranda Kerr’s diet and workout routine.”

I followed the plans strictly, and yet it never worked. My body got smaller, but it definitely didn’t morph into a replica of a VS angel.

As a result, I moved into heavier extremes. Dangerous ones even. From eating *just* baby food to eating nothing at all (or at least trying not to).

Again, never actualizing the body I dreamed of no matter how hard I tried. I was frustrated and filled with deep hatred toward myself and my body.

“Why can’t my body just look like them?”

I had no real understanding of anatomy at the time. I couldn’t comprehend no matter how hard I tried, my build and genetic make-up are completely different. And for so long, I thought those differences made me unworthy.

But at the root of it all, while the misunderstanding of anatomy certainly factored in, it was more about the lack of diversity I saw as a young girl. I didn’t see other bodies being celebrated; I only saw one.

If I wanted to be beautiful and worthy—I was conditioned to believe I had to look like an angel. And it saddens me that even to this day, Victoria Secret refuses to diversify the company. You’d think a company that has so much power would want to help change that narrative—not continue to enable it.

While they’re under no obligation to do so, saying the reason not to is because the show is a “fantasy” supports that fucked up narrative. And in a real way, dehumanizes so many of us.

Despite being extremely disappointed in the company, I’m proud to see people vocalize against it and stand together on this.

We’re all worthy of being celebrated. Every size, every shape, every color, every identity.


I love you,

Devi


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Are Negative Thoughts Normal?

Do you feel like when you’re wearing a bikini, your insecurities tend to cloud over you? Your thoughts are preoccupied with how you look rather than how much fun you’re having (or could be having)? You think things like...

 “I look gross”
“Her body is better than mine”
“I don’t want to take my clothes off”

What if I told you that all these thoughts are harmless? And they don’t have to hold power over you?

What most “self love gurus” don’t tell you is that negative thoughts will come up—and that’s okay.

A thought is just thought; you will have weird ones, silly ones, positive ones, uncomfortable ones, and negative ones.

But these thoughts will only affect you when you get lost in them—when you attach yourself to the story and believe it as true.

But, you are not your thoughts. Don’t latch on to them, don’t let them control you and don’t let them take momentum.

You deserve to frolic around in your bikini without a single concern about your appearance, because your body is not wrong. There is absolutely nothing to worry about.

Drink your marg out of a red solo cup (because glass in water is dangerous - duh) and lounge around on inflatable tubes.

Have fun, relax, and stop giving fucks about things that aren’t worth giving a fuck about.

XX

Devi


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Stop Sexualizing Women's Bodies

When I first started modeling, I decided I would never do a boudoir shoot. I thought that doing this type of shoot was “inappropriate.” That it was a plea for attention. That I shouldn’t expose my body on the internet. That it would degrade my worth. That it mean I didn’t respect myself. All things that I didn’t want people to associate with me. Yet every time I was asked to do a boudoir shoot, I felt drawn to say yes because deep down, I really wanted to do it.

I wanted to do it because I spent years feeling uncomfortable in my body and as a result, I kept it hidden and covered. The fact that I suddenly had this intense desire to walk into a shoot completely exposed, 40 lbs heavier, was empowering and liberating.

So, eventually, I said, "fuck it. Why not?"

I was immediately shamed when I did my first boudoir shoot.

I received a text that said something along the lines of, “Devon, what you’re doing does not go unnoticed and I am extremely proud of the work you’re putting out into the world. However, I do worry about the type of shoots you’re doing. They are not the best way to represent your brand. You don’t want people to google you and find pictures of you in lingerie. It indicates a need for attention and sexualizes your brand.”

As I continued to do more boudoir shoots, I continued to hear similar comments.

I never reacted to the feedback—but it started to bother me immensely. I was being accused of things that weren’t true.

You see, I wasn’t doing these shoots for attention. I was doing it to celebrate my body because I finally felt confident in it. I was doing it to help paint a clear image that confidence isn’t tied to a look, it’s a feeling from within. I was doing it to prove that you can feel sexy, just as you are.

In this exact scenario, nudity represented a message I strongly stand for: body positivity.

So, I decided that these opinions deserved some unpacking, because quite frankly, I think it’s infuriating that a women can’t capture her body in it’s most natural state without it having a negative connotation.

Through the unpacking, I discovered that the narrative behind why people believe this is actually pretty obvious:

You are conditioned to think of sex the minute you see nudity; it is taught by society that a woman’s body is for sexual gratification and an object for pleasure. It’s why you link the amount of clothing a woman wears to how much respect she has for herself or how much respect she deserves to receive.

And while it’s perfectly okay to value modesty, it’s important to realize that what empowers you might be completely different to what empowers someone else. Modesty doesn’t place you on a pedestal or mean that you are more deserving of respect.

These notions are harmful and fucked up in a myriad of ways. It’s part of the reason rape exists and at it’s core, is a form of misogyny.

It’s time to stop enabling a system that doesn’t serve women and let go of the inherited beliefs that prevents us from showing up powerfully and authentically.

A woman should feel empowered and safe to express herself in whatever way feels right to her. She shouldn’t be shamed or feel an ounce of danger because of the way she chooses to exist in the world — end of story.

 

Devi

4 ways to feel confident in YOUR bikini body

From Bikini Body Challenges to magazine articles challenging us to “Get Bikini Body Ready,” we are constantly bombarded with this idea that we need to be lean, with perfectly clear and airbrushed looking skin to have a bikini body. 

Society is robbing us from our ability to accept and embrace our bodies exactly as they are right now. 

I’m sick of it. Aren’t you?

Don’t you want to reclaim your summers, your vacations and even your life? Oh girl, fuck yeah you do! 

This is how I suggest you do just that: 

Breakup with the ideal image of a “bikini body”

Society has perpetuated the concept that your body has to look a certain way in order to put a bikini on. But the truth is, every single person has a bikini body, because all they have to do is put a bikini on their body and viola - they have a bikini body. 

This bigoted idea of what a “bikini body” is supposed to look like is absolutely ridiculous. 

It strips us from showing up powerfully in our skin and is another way of deeming certain women unworthy of putting on a bikini. 

Your body is enough exactly as it is. You do not need permission nor do you need to follow unsolicited prerequisites to put on a bikini this summer. 

Action Step:

Go through your social media accounts and unfollow people who you compare yourself to or make you feel less. Follow more accounts that promote body positivity and self acceptance. This small action step can make a huge difference on how you feel about yourself and your body. 

Accept your “flaws” 

Having cellulite on the back of your thighs, stretch marks on your stomach and rolls as you move into different positions is not disgusting and it’s not a flaw - this is just something your body does and it’s completely normal. 

Sure, you don’t have to necessarily love these things about your body but you can start to bring awareness to these things without judging it or letting it dictate how you feel about yourself. You can accept it for what it is and move on with your day. These things are apart of your body but they certainly do not define your body. 

These things are normal and you are not flawed for having them. 

Action Step:

Normalize these things and call it for what it is: “cellulite,” “stretch marks,” “fat” instead of associating it with words like flawed, disgusting, gross, or ugly.

Be naked more

The majority of us don’t even feel comfortable being naked when we are alone, let alone being practically naked in front of a crowd of people. It can put you in a vulnerable and uncomfortable position when you are completely exposed and unable to cover up. I get it because I too felt this way. So how do you get comfortable with the uncomfortable? You do exactly that - you get comfortable being naked by being naked more.

Stand in front of the mirror naked (with positive thoughts). Walk around the house naked. Sleep naked. Get ready naked. Celebrate your body in it’s most natural state by being naked more. Stop covering yourself up in your own company. Embrace your body and all that it offers you and Take. It. Off.

Action Step:

Get naked! 

Wear a suit that makes you feel comfortable

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Ignore any guide on what type of bathing suit you should wear for your body type because it’s irrelevant. You don’t need anyone’s permission to wear a certain suit. 

You don’t have to cover up or hide certain body parts, but If you want to hide or cover up certain body parts, you can absolutely do so. If you have small boobs, you don’t have to buy a bikini with extra padding. If you are curvy, you do not have to cover up with a one piece. If you have cellulite or stretch marks, you do not have to find a suit that will hide it. 

You can wear whatever you feel most comfortable in and you don’t have to apologize for it. 

Action Step:

Go shopping!! Try on a variety of different colors and styles until you find a suit (or three) that make you feel good in your bikini body. 


I hope that you found these 4 tips helpful and most importantly, put them to use! 

With love, 

Devon Day

P.S. HUGE shoutout to my dude, Andrew Downing, for shooting these amazing photos and helping me get all these beautiful women together to promote body positivity. 


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If you are tired of looking in the mirror feeling like your body isn't enough, this program is for you. If you feel like your body does not live up to society's expectations, this program is for you. If you are ready to feel beautiful and worthy exactly the way you are, then this program is most definitely for you. 

So many of us lack self confidence and struggle with body image, but it’s not our fault that we feel this way. We are constantly told by the media what we should look like so when we don’t live up to those expectations, it makes us feel like we aren’t enough. The media has completely robbed us from realizing our worth.

I decided I wanted to create a program to help women take back what was stolen from us. This is a 6 week program that is designed to help you step back into your power and love your body exactly the way it is. 

I want to love my body NOW!

The most valuable possession you already own

"What's your most valuable possession?" This was a question I was asked for a modeling interview.

A few moments passed as I contemplated the question. Nothing of significance popped in my head. I don’t own any material items that are particularly valuable to me. But I do own my body, I thought.

My body is irreplaceable, one of a kind and something that only I possess… and so is yours.  And all of those things make your body and my body pretty damn valuable if you ask me.

I didn’t always feel this way about my body and unfortunately most people still don’t value or love their body. We think we need to have that person’s waist, that other person’s hair, that one Instagram model’s legs and a myriad of other body features in order to be worthy and appreciated. But what so many of us forget to realize is that our bodies value is not placed on what it looks like.

You don’t have to look a certain way to be worthy and loved.

Your body is yours and that is special and valuable within itself. That reason alone is enough for your body to be your most valuable possession.

With love,
Devon Day


Do you want to learn how to love your body exactly the way it is? Keep reading... 

Love Your Body Now

If you are tired of looking in the mirror feeling like your body isn't enough, this program is for you. If you feel like your body does not live up to society's expectations, this program is for you. If you are ready to feel beautiful and worthy exactly the way you are, then this program is most definitely for you. 

So many of us lack self confidence and struggle with body image, but it’s not our fault that we feel this way. We are constantly told by the media what we should look like so when we don’t live up to those expectations, it makes us feel like we aren’t enough. The media has completely robbed us from realizing our worth.

I decided I wanted to create a program to help women take back what was stolen from us. This is a 6 week program that is designed to help you step back into your power and love your body exactly the way it is. 

I want to love my body NOW!