how to love your body

Can You Love Your Body and Still Want to Change it?

You can accept your body right now and still want to make changes to it. These two are not mutually exclusive. As a matter of fact, if both are applied simultaneously magic happens.

When you operate from a place of self-acceptance and self-compassion, changing your body becomes easier than ever, because you take care of what you love.

The misconceived notion that self-acceptance and self-love equates to laziness or stagnation is a silly concept. Neglecting your health and the myriad of other things that embody self-care is not a reflection of love.

When you love your body, you treat it with the upmost care and respect. This encompasses both speaking kindly to yourself and doing the very things that nourish it—working out, eating healthy, getting proper sleep—that whole thing.

So yes, it’s okay to want change, there’s just a fine line between where the desire to change is derived from.

If you want to change your body because you think being leaner will somehow make you more worthy of love, success, connection, confidence, and belonging—that’s a massive problem, because it’s morbidly untrue.

But when you want to change your body to improve the quality of your life OR simply because you fucking want to (hello autonomy) it’s a completely different story.

Hating your body lean doesn’t work, or at least never ends in a happy fairy tale. Cut that shit out and watch how much easier it is to make those desired alterations.

xx

Devi

Three Ways to Practice Body Acceptance

Do I love my stretch marks and cellulite? No, I don’t love them—I also don’t hate them. I just accept them and I’m okay with the fact that they’re there.

Self love and body acceptance doesn't exactly mean loving every single part of your body. And this might catch you by surprise because it seems to go against everything that love and acceptance stands for—but it’s not.

It’s not about learning to love and romanticize over something you don’t like. It’s about normalizing it, accepting it for what it is and not letting it define you.

Instead of trying to “love” something you don’t love, try this instead:

1. Bring awareness to it without judging it or linking it to a negative meaning. If you see cellulite, call it for what it is, rather than saying something like: gross, disgusting, ugly. Keep it at cellulite without the self sabotaging story attached to it.

2. Normalize it and accept it for what it is. Remind yourself that rolls, folds, and dimples are just normal things that your body creates.

3. Don’t attach it to your worth. It doesn’t deem you as unworthy and it doesn’t represent your beauty. These things are apart of your body, but they certainly don’t define it.



For more tools on body acceptance, click here to take my FREE body confidence course.

Love,

Devi

Do You Feel Insecure In A Bikini? Try This.

One powerful way to feel confident in a bikini is to break down the thoughts that are holding you back from experiencing it.

Let's dive in, shall we?

1. What story are you telling yourself that is holding you back from showing up confidently?

Example: I shouldn’t wear a bikini because of the cellulite on my legs — it’s gross.

2. Where does this story originate from? More often than not, this story / belief was projected on you by someone else at some point in your life.

Example: I think cellulite is gross because I was / am constantly bombarded with messages that tell me to get rid of it.

3. Is it true? (The famous, Bryon Katie, question).

Example: is it actually true that cellulite is gross? Nope, it is not true. Cellulite is a normal thing to develop. Companies just heavily photo-shop models and use subliminal messaging to manipulate me into buying their shitty product — fuck that.

4. How would you feel without this thought? (Another Bryon Katie question).

Example: I wouldn’t waste my energy being worried about something that’s completely normal. My thoughts wouldn’t be racing with insecurities, instead they would be focused on being present in whatever activity I’m engaging in. I would finally feel better about putting on a bikini.

5. Why should you let go of this thought?

Example: I should let go of this thought because it’s simply not serving me, it’s not true and I will not feed into society’s bullshit.

 

Don’t let these harmful thoughts take momentum, baby guuuuurl. Break up with them and then proudly wear that bikini of yours.

XX

Devi


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Fit, Fat and All That - Guest Interview

From her enlightening messages about body image to her captivating personality and sassy attitude, I am thrilled to put the spotlight on my girl, Julia.

Julia, also known as FitFatAndAllThat on Instagram, is a body positive influencer who openly talks about the struggles she's faced with body image and disordered eating. I felt immediately connected with her the minute I found her, not just because I can relate to her story, but because of her transparency and willingness to show up vulnerably. 

I am excited for you to dive into this interview I had with Julia so you can get a snip of her story and the process she's used to heal her relationship with food and her body. So without further ado... 


What do you think triggered you to have disordered eating and body image dismorphia? 

I believe the media had a huge role in my eating disorder and I was also bullied about my weight in high school which led to a lot of insecurities. I never really saw my body type in my magazines or talked about as being “beautiful” in movies or shows. The diet industry shoves a certain body type in our faces and that was never my body, so I felt that I needed to change the way I looked to be accepted by society. 

How did you start to heal your relationship with food and your body?

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I spent years hating my body and never treating it with respect. I knew that I didn’t want to live my life uncomfortable in my skin and decided that I needed professional help. I decided to seek out a therapist and nutritionist that specialized in eating disorder recovery and spent a couple years really breaking down my body-image issues. 

What is one common mistake you think people make when they are trying to overcome their eating disorder? 

I think a lot of people mask their eating disorder or eating issues with a “diet” lifestyle. I held onto my eating disorder for years without realizing it because I was still very restrictive with my eating. I counted calories and took part in fad diets. I thought that because I was eating and not throwing up that I wasn’t in my ED, but I was. I realized to really overcome my eating disorder, I would need to let everything I thought about food and how I ate go. And then start fresh. I had to teach myself all over again how to intuitively eat and listen to my body. 

What advice would you give someone who is trying to feel confident in their body? 

The biggest thing I had to stop doing is comparing myself to other women. I used to envy naturally thin women and I would get angry that I wasn’t blessed with that. I unfollowed accounts that didn’t make me feel good about myself and started to saturate my life with body-positive talk. I kept telling myself that every single human is different. For us to expect that we will look like someone else is ridiculous. We all have flaws and imperfections. And I knew that no matter my size, if I didn’t work on changing my thoughts I would never love myself, even if I was thin.

It's important to know that you’re going to have bad body days, it’s normal. But to be able to get out of them and rationalize your thoughts is the important thing. And know that it’s one bad day, and tomorrow is a new one! 

What is one thing you do regularly to practice self care? 

I love baths and candles. Anytime I feel very stressed and out of whack, I try to take a relaxing bath with yummy candles and some good, calm music. I know that my thoughts can race and get out of control, so to be able to calm down usually helps when I’m feeling overwhelmed. 

Do you still struggle with your body image? Or have "bad" body image days? What are things you do to help shake it off? 

Of course! We all have those days and it’s completely normal. I know that certain times of the month are harder for me and I try to prepare for that. I also know that working out helps with my mood a ton. Whether it’s an intense cycling class or just a causal walk, I know that moving my body and getting outside always helps my mood.

What is your absolute favorite thing to do lately? 

Oh man, I love doing so much - haha. But since it’s starting to warm up in Denver, I love to get outside. Whether it’s brunch on a patio or hiking in the mountains - being in nature brings me so much happiness.


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GET CONNECTED WITH JULIA:

If you want to catch Julia dancing to her favorite songs in the car, or enlightening you with her spiel on body positivity - I highly recommend checking out her Instagram. 

Instagram: @fitfatandallthat

Email:  FitFatAndAllThat@gmail.com

4 Books That Taught Me How To Love Myself

These four books helped pave my path down the road to self love, self acceptance and self worth. And while I do believe there are a myriad of ways in which you can get to those places without reading, books can make the process easier because you'll have the tools, direction and understanding of what you need to unravel and work through.

I highly recommend diving into one of the books so you can see for yourself how powerful and magical it can be for your life.

I am plus size and still love my body

I am so incredibly honored to have been given the opportunity to interview the fashionista herself, Casey Snow. From her inspiring message to her contagious smile, this girl is truly a light to the world. 

When I started following Casey on Instagram, I was immediately drawn to her exuberant confidence and captivating style. Not only does she take excellent care of her body, but her positive messages about self-love, body love, and living a fearless life make her a killer role model for women everywhere.

I am so excited for you to dive in and learn her perspective on loving your body, exactly as it is. 

So without further ado....  

What inspired you to start talking about body positivity on your social media platform? 

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Since I was little I remember how different I was treated compared to the other kids, at school and even at home. The first time I questioned myself was the day I ran home crying after some kids threw rocks at me and called me names. I was just starting kindergarten. I ran into my mother’s arms and cried. I didn’t understand what I had done wrong. 

I started talking about body positivity because it took me till after high school to realize that I had done nothing wrong. For years I believed I wasn’t worth anything because of other’s disdain for what I looked like. My appearance made me an outsider and all the hate and ignorance made me begin to hate my own body. All I wanted was to be like everyone else and I started tearing myself apart piece by piece until eventually one day I couldn’t take it anymore. I made a choice that would forever change my life and thankfully I am still here, but I don’t want that to be the case for anyone else. 

I never had a community or people I could relate to or talk to and that’s what I want to help build. I want to show others that they aren’t alone and that people’s ignorance doesn’t make them not worth loving because they are worth everything and more. 

How did you get to the place you are now to feel confident and empowered in your skin? 

I went through a lot to get to where I am now and even today, I still struggle. You don’t always need to be strong to be confident, but I think letting go helped. Letting go of expectations and being able to just be myself without the restraints of what people think of me or not. It matters what I think of myself and that I can love who I am for everything that I am, including my body. People find themselves at different times in their lives. It’s never easy, but it is always worth it. 

What does body positive mean to you? 

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Body positivity to me means loving your body for all that it is and goes through. As a plus size woman, it’s about growth and acceptance of a body society deems unacceptable and fighting against that unrealistic expectation. Whether someone weighs more or less, it doesn’t matter because our bodies don’t define us. We do. I want to create a community where we are seen more than for our bodies, but as people worth more because we are more. 

 

 

 

We all have those days where we just feel “blaaahhhhhh” about ourselves. What do you do to bring yourself back to center and feel better about yourself? 

There are definitely days where I feel lost, but then I remember I’m not alone and I don’t have to be. Talking to people is a good way to help relieve that questioning. I am so thankful to be part of an amazing community where there is so many of us who have gone through similar experiences. Don’t ever be afraid or shamed  to reach out for help. Asking for help is one of the strongest things a person can do for themselves. It’s a big step and again, remembering you’re not alone is a comfort worth realizing.

What makes you feel most confident? 

What makes me confident everyday is knowing how far I have come and how many people I can help realize they are worth everything. Having taken me over a decade to realize that myself, I don’t want others to struggle with that as well. They deserve to be happy and to live their lives. Hate and ignorance is nothing worth waiting to be something that doesn’t exist. I want to build the voices of the silenced until we can no longer be ignored.


Get connected with Casey Snow: 

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I highly recommend checking out Casey on Instagram. Rather you need inspiration to spice up your wardrobe or want a reminder of your worth, she is your girl. 

Instagram: @discoveringcasey 

The most valuable possession you already own

"What's your most valuable possession?" This was a question I was asked for a modeling interview.

A few moments passed as I contemplated the question. Nothing of significance popped in my head. I don’t own any material items that are particularly valuable to me. But I do own my body, I thought.

My body is irreplaceable, one of a kind and something that only I possess… and so is yours.  And all of those things make your body and my body pretty damn valuable if you ask me.

I didn’t always feel this way about my body and unfortunately most people still don’t value or love their body. We think we need to have that person’s waist, that other person’s hair, that one Instagram model’s legs and a myriad of other body features in order to be worthy and appreciated. But what so many of us forget to realize is that our bodies value is not placed on what it looks like.

You don’t have to look a certain way to be worthy and loved.

Your body is yours and that is special and valuable within itself. That reason alone is enough for your body to be your most valuable possession.

With love,
Devon Day


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Love Your Body Now

If you are tired of looking in the mirror feeling like your body isn't enough, this program is for you. If you feel like your body does not live up to society's expectations, this program is for you. If you are ready to feel beautiful and worthy exactly the way you are, then this program is most definitely for you. 

So many of us lack self confidence and struggle with body image, but it’s not our fault that we feel this way. We are constantly told by the media what we should look like so when we don’t live up to those expectations, it makes us feel like we aren’t enough. The media has completely robbed us from realizing our worth.

I decided I wanted to create a program to help women take back what was stolen from us. This is a 6 week program that is designed to help you step back into your power and love your body exactly the way it is. 

I want to love my body NOW!

What my clients are saying....

DANIELLE'S STORY 

"So I bet you are all wondering what it’s like to work with Devon… She’s always so motivating on social media, between her Instagram, youtube, and blog. Devon has a lot of ways that she reaches out to everybody.

Back about a month ago, I made an Instagram for my fitness and health journey wanting to really focus on motivating younger girls and inspiring others. I really don’t know how I found Devon’s Instagram among the hundreds of other fitness accounts that I followed, but I am so grateful that I did! I love Devon's whole mantra on fitness and the message she is trying to deliver to others. Love yourself and love your body. It’s one of the main things that every girl struggles with and we all need to learn to love ourselves over losing weight or trying to fit into a bikini in the summer.

After going through Devon's program, I will never go back to doing hours of cardio to lose weight or even regular "body building" style workouts. Devon has opened my eyes to more a efficient and extremely effective way to workout. Being a full time college student and working, I don’t have a lot of free time and I would miss out on hanging out with friends and family to workout. But not anymore. Devon provided me with workouts that I can manage to fit in my schedule. 

Devon doesn't just give you a plan but she teaches you. I am so happy that Devon shared with me so much of her knowledge because I don’t think I could have done it on my own. I would have not seen results and went back to starving, binging, and lots of cardio. 

Within the program I have gained confidence, my body has changed physically, I have been able to adjust my diet into a way of eating that I enjoy and I've made a new friend. Devon is always just a text, email or call away. She has always been there for me and I am so grateful for that. 

Working with Devon is such an amazing experience and I am so happy that we are able to work together. To anybody just starting on their fitness journey or struggling with self love… I highly recommend working with her! Don’t ever hesitate to email her either because she is the sweetest person you will ever meet!"

- Danielle Maurer